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aparently people at uni think i'm a heavy duty dyke...
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Ok, at a glance at my social life i can see why, i do martial arts, i drink pints, i like heavy metal, most of my mates are lesbians or male, and i do wear comfortable shoes (but they're black patent DMs!)
Ok i'm am bi, but i have a problem with being boxed up as a dyke (sexuality doesn't come into it, some of my most feminine friends are lesbians, its the stereo type of being a dyke - and not a lesbian- that i have a problem with)
i wasn't feeling hugely femenine anyway, and being told that people thought/think i am has made me feel worse...
i am on a predominantly male course as well, so i kinda have to be down with the boys...but how the hell can i feel more feminine and get rid of this horrible horrible stereotype...
Ok i'm am bi, but i have a problem with being boxed up as a dyke (sexuality doesn't come into it, some of my most feminine friends are lesbians, its the stereo type of being a dyke - and not a lesbian- that i have a problem with)
i wasn't feeling hugely femenine anyway, and being told that people thought/think i am has made me feel worse...
i am on a predominantly male course as well, so i kinda have to be down with the boys...but how the hell can i feel more feminine and get rid of this horrible horrible stereotype...
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but realistically...? it would take me ages to get through all of them!
it could have been meant as a joke or just a way to get a reaction out of you. if you want to make yourself feel more feminine just take a bubble bath! i always thought you liked having your own style anywho
Exactly.
It doesn't matter what they think. Bollocks to them.
Double time?
going to be a busy term then
im really not gay btw
but they called me a dyke, and it wasn't 1 it was 5...
not happy....
A dyke being a derogatory piece of slang commonly used (AFAIK) to denote masculine homosexual women, I really dont think that she classes as one.
Ignore the comment, tell them just because you won't sleep with them and are more of a man than they ever will be it doesn't make you gay. That's usually what i tell people.
I've been buttonholed as a lesbian since I was 18 because i'm intensely private about my love life and don't gob off in the pub about it. Also i do martial arts, drink cider and generally am more macho than a lot of the men in the pub :thumb: I can still be girly though and wear heels and a dress, believe me, this will not change you in their minds into being girly and straight.
I like to look at it as being a strong independant female. You don't have to be a lesbian to be one of those :yes:
And yes the word dyke is offensive to a lot of people, but then so are swear words but people use them all the time even when we don't want them to. You just have to ignore the fact that they're ignorant people. If you feel the need to why not educate them on the "dyke" word and why it's not used.
WTF ARE you talking about? I know plenty of straight girls (being one myself as well)
TT:Who care what people at uni think about you? You are unquie character and there is nothing wrong with that at all. I'm one of the boys, the only girlin my office and have no interest in pink fluffy girly things and I dont care what people make of because I know I'm bring true to myself.
I think you know full well what I'm talking about - the Katy Perry generation and all that. Anyway, I wasn't being entirely serious, obviously.
and hunny, i'm too old for being part of the katie perry generation!
So in a way, it seems to me that it may actually more difficult to be a genuine female bisexual or lesbian than be a gay or bisexual man.
Anyone else noticed this?
Shes been getting the abuse off people because she is different, and has widely ranging views.
That is one of the biggest sets of closed and narrow minded stereotypeings that ive seen for a long time.