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Am i a bad person?
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basically this is whats happened.
for a few weeks my boy has been texting and talking to alot of girls, like, constantly. fair enough, they are his friends etc. i reason with myself but it really got me down that he was constantly texting at least 3 other girls and if not texting them then he was chatting to them via msn etc.
im not the kind of person who gets jealous of his girl friends but it just started to grind on me that he was talking to them alot more than he was actually talking to me, which isnt hard becasue we live together! it just seemed to me that he would have rather talked to them than me.
it also struck me as odd because he has virtually no guy mates and tonnes of girl mates, all of whom i dont know.
AAAANDD hes started talking to his most recent ex again [re-added her number to his phone, added her on facebook, and re-added her on msn], which is odd because he labels her as a "cheating money-stealing whore"
why would he want to talk to her? this coming from a guy who believes that ex's cant be friends
so, i eventually confronted him about it and told him how it made me feel and he replyed that he's sorry and that he'll stop talking to them as the last thing he wants to do is make me feel bad
all well and good you may think but now i feel bad becasue ive become the shitty girlfriend whos jealous of her boy's friends so has made him not talk to them anymore.
im a terrible person arent i?
for a few weeks my boy has been texting and talking to alot of girls, like, constantly. fair enough, they are his friends etc. i reason with myself but it really got me down that he was constantly texting at least 3 other girls and if not texting them then he was chatting to them via msn etc.
im not the kind of person who gets jealous of his girl friends but it just started to grind on me that he was talking to them alot more than he was actually talking to me, which isnt hard becasue we live together! it just seemed to me that he would have rather talked to them than me.
it also struck me as odd because he has virtually no guy mates and tonnes of girl mates, all of whom i dont know.
AAAANDD hes started talking to his most recent ex again [re-added her number to his phone, added her on facebook, and re-added her on msn], which is odd because he labels her as a "cheating money-stealing whore"
why would he want to talk to her? this coming from a guy who believes that ex's cant be friends
so, i eventually confronted him about it and told him how it made me feel and he replyed that he's sorry and that he'll stop talking to them as the last thing he wants to do is make me feel bad
all well and good you may think but now i feel bad becasue ive become the shitty girlfriend whos jealous of her boy's friends so has made him not talk to them anymore.
im a terrible person arent i?
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on here you don't need to kid yourself.
It sounds like he has been a little out of order in his behaviour towards you, and it may be that he's just realised that, rather than that there's anything more to it.
i think he did and its all sorted now but i still feel really bad because i know at least one of these girls was an old school friend. and im scared that teyll think im some sort of bitchy controlling girlfriend and im not. im just really insecure i guess.