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hey haven't been around for a while so sorry if this is cheeky but just a warning i reckon this could be something that could upset people and i didnt know where to put it so sorry if in wrong place
basically this is something which happened a couple of years ago and well my ex boyfriend kind of forced sex and well i was talking to someone and they said it happened to them and well basically they called it rape and maybe it's just me but for myself i cant see it as that or at least i dont want to and im just wondering is she right and i dont know sorry just so confused at the moment
sorry again if in the worng place
basically this is something which happened a couple of years ago and well my ex boyfriend kind of forced sex and well i was talking to someone and they said it happened to them and well basically they called it rape and maybe it's just me but for myself i cant see it as that or at least i dont want to and im just wondering is she right and i dont know sorry just so confused at the moment
sorry again if in the worng place
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Yes, I second that, and I know that everyone else here will.
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That should never have to be the case, though. He still has no right to do whatever he wants with you. It's your body.
Your right to say no is much more important than his right for sex.
Don't be sorry!
We're just trying to make your realise that this is something that you shouldn't blame yourself for.
Just feel like it is my fault that i must have asked for it or done something to deserve it some how-sorry
If this had been anybody else, would you be saying it was their fault? Nothing you could have done in any way excuses what he did to you.
Please stop saying sorry. You have absolutely nothing to be sorry for. It is clearly still affecting you and so if you want to talk about it then you have every right to and we will listen if you want us to, and we will try and help as much as we can.
noone apart from my friend-havent reported it no-doesnt seem worth it-was two years ago-i think its just cos he is kind of still around in my life and trying to get me back into bed and that might be why its back in my mind alot more as well
I would talk to someone else it may help you. Have a look on the site. In the sex and relationship section or continue to chat here and I am sure we can help you.
I dont know it just seems like it would be my word against his and i cant go through it all and couldnt deal with others finding out-im really sorry i dont know why im not dealing with this better
Hey hp, as others said you shouldn't feel you have to apologise, you've experienced something really tough and it's totally normal to be struggling to come to terms with it. As other have said, do stick around TheSite.org to chat if it helps you and you may also find our article relating to this topic useful. Take good care.
Thanks helen...
Just gonna take a while i think-doesnt help i just want to see him now to prove it cant be right...just revisting everything including all the stuff he said recently about how he still loves me and stuff-sorry again
Hey hp, one of the key things to think about in any relationship is actions speak louder than words. Regardless of what he may say to you now, it's important to think about how you actually feel about what he did and how you've felt about the way he's treated you in the past. One of the things that really stands out in this thread is when you said you thought it might have been your fault that he forced sex. As others said, that is never the case - sex is something that should only happen when both people consent. It's quite worrying to think that what he may have said to you made you feel that it could be your fault. Therefore, when thinking about the future, perhaps ask yourself whether or not you think you'll be able to become a stronger and happier person if he's still in your life.
Thanks Helen again. I dont know what I feel-probably at the moment its more confused than anything else, as i said im revisiting so much of it in my head and at the moment just want to talk to him to see what he says but dont have the confidence to do as im such a wimp. i am truly sorry for all of this and wish it would go away and i could move on.