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Was I Used?
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Im confused right.
A Guy and me had a bit of fun right but we didnt go as far as sex just a few stuff in between.;) .The next day i was told that by him it was only a spur of the moment thing and it was just a bit of fun. But then according to his friends he had been talking about trying it on with me for a while....
i dont know who to believe
and ive now liked the guy
he was in a relationship with a clingy girl before and im not waanting to be like that but i dont think anythings going to happen again altho i want it to
has anyone got anything for me to do or say to help with the situation. i really like that guy and hope ive not been used
A Guy and me had a bit of fun right but we didnt go as far as sex just a few stuff in between.;) .The next day i was told that by him it was only a spur of the moment thing and it was just a bit of fun. But then according to his friends he had been talking about trying it on with me for a while....
i dont know who to believe
and ive now liked the guy
he was in a relationship with a clingy girl before and im not waanting to be like that but i dont think anythings going to happen again altho i want it to
has anyone got anything for me to do or say to help with the situation. i really like that guy and hope ive not been used
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I believe that you are only "used" if you allow yourself to be. If you feel bad about this experience, learn from it and think more carefully in the future. But for now, let it go and try to rise above it. It's happened, and you can't change it.
If you want to just have fun with someone but then feel like you're being used - these two things don't really go together. If you're someone who is capable of "having fun" - you won't be worried about feeling bad. If you do feel badly about yourself, it's probably not worth the "fun".
thanks alot btw :] best advice ive had for this
and the only lolo
im up for fun,especially with him and if he wants to again im willing even if its going no where i was just worried incasee he was going to use my by saying things about me etcc its a long story tbhh but thanks a bunch
i understand ive been used beforeee
hopefully if he does begin to i'll realise thanks alot for your help :]
How about telling him how you feel.
Probably should get to know the guy better first and tell him what u want and find out what he wants. Kinda late to go that route now though. Good advice for the future though.
You could ask him if he wants a relationship with you or not. Maybe even get a friend of yours to ask him and find out what he thinks about you.
As for not being used might not wanna put yourself in these type of situations where you don't know what the other person is thinking. You'd be putting yourself in a situation where you could get hurt.
Hey, Im a guy and Im not like that.
You weren't used because he didn't give you any commitment in the first place. If you have feelings for him, I would've suggested you did nothing sexual with him,as it's not going to help. It sounds like he doesn't feel the same (which sucks) but you won't know for sure unless you ask him.