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BillieTheBot
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I have no idea how to even phrase this properly.
Basically, I've found out that my Dad has been using...call girls. As in classy prostitutes.
Which is a problem, as he's still married to my Mum. And outwardly, they seem a super happy devoted couple.
I don't know if my Mum knows anything about this, and I don't know what breaks my heart more; that she doesn't know, or that she does and has just accepted it.
Either way, I'm now in the amazing position of knowing that my Dad is cheating on my Mum. And I don't know what to do. My Mum is one of the loveliest people you'll ever meet. My Dad's not.
I want to confront him. I actually want to beat the shit out of him, which is pretty extreme for me. But I'm terrified about what affect this might have on my Mum.
Fuck.
Basically, I've found out that my Dad has been using...call girls. As in classy prostitutes.
Which is a problem, as he's still married to my Mum. And outwardly, they seem a super happy devoted couple.
I don't know if my Mum knows anything about this, and I don't know what breaks my heart more; that she doesn't know, or that she does and has just accepted it.
Either way, I'm now in the amazing position of knowing that my Dad is cheating on my Mum. And I don't know what to do. My Mum is one of the loveliest people you'll ever meet. My Dad's not.
I want to confront him. I actually want to beat the shit out of him, which is pretty extreme for me. But I'm terrified about what affect this might have on my Mum.
Fuck.
Beep boop. I'm a bot.
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First of all make sure you have all the facts, and then check again. The last thing you want to do is say anything based on hearsay and rumours.
If he has been sleeping with them, I would talk to him, find out what your mum knows or doesn’t know. This is just my opinion but if your mum doesn’t know I would try and keep it from her and work with your dad to find a solution. (that’s down to your conscious though)
I don’t know what your relationship with your dad is like, but I wouldn’t lash out. This is only going to upset your mum, even more so if she has no idea what the arguments are about.
Speak with your dad; find out how long it’s been going on etc. Let him know your feelings on the issue and make it clear you’re not protecting him by keeping it from your mum. I guess you need to speak with your dad to find out how serious this is. Perhaps its just a one off, perhaps its been going on years.
At the end of it all, you’re going to have to decide what to do. You need to make a judgement based on what your dad has told you. Can this all be forgotten without everyone knowing about it or has it gone too far?
Let us know how it goes
:thumb:
This is part of the problem. I was visiting my Mum and Dad's, my Mum asked me to hop on my Dad's PC to order stuff from Amazon, there was an awesomely suspicious email address still logged into gmail and I...um...had a look. Which makes me a awful person.
It was clearly an email address set up specifically for dodgy things; there was pretty much everything bar a VAT receipt, which is a shame because I'd love to see if the recent tax cut applied to blowjobs as well.
So I can't really confront him, as I was snooping.
I would never lash out, I'm not that kind of person.
It might have been a on off, I don't know. At this point I'm favoring the head in the sand approach and trying to forget what I saw.
Confronting your Dad about his use of prostitutes isn't one of those things that they have a step by step pamphlet for.
On the other hand if there are email which clearly state he has been meeting with them you might have something to go on.
If you say something, he might just deny it and say he did contacted an escort but then thought better of it. I would search for more proof.
Im sure Helen will have one somewhere
Now that would be impressive.
I think you've made some really good points Cal.
This is a really tricky one and I'd be tempted to write to askTheSite Infinite, if you haven't already.
Yeah, sounds like the best thing to do is to tell your dad that you found out. Talk to him about it and try and figure out what's going on. Maybe when your dad realises you know he'll change his ways because he's putting a lot on the line. It's a shit situation to put yourself in, I know, but he deserves to be caught out.
I think I'll drop some pretty heavy hints about seeing the dodgy email address and see how he responds. As much as I'd dearly love to just turn to him during Christmas dinner and say "So I hear you're paying women to fuck you now!", my Mum would be devastated.
He really is a selfish fuck.
Yeah, I guess hinting is probably the best you can do. Or pull the whole this-happened-to-my-friend-and-it-was-really-shit card??
Are you 100% sure that someone hasn't used your dad's email address? (for whatever reason)
If you are sure 200% on both of these, then... then... I actually don't know, that's tough stuff, but you should be very sure before you do anything.
sorry for you misery, bro, but potw
Reminds me of Strubbles POTW about Helen having info on taking over the world
Yeah. It was an email address created specifically for dodgy stuff.
I don't have a fucking clue about fixing this.
It's self centered but...it does make me wonder about how fucked up this makes me. I mean, is this my future? :banghead:
Not unless you want it to be.
Things might spiral out of control if you confront either your mum or dad. I'd just keep quiet.