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Qualities in people that stand out
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What about people brings you out? makes someone a trusted family member, a perfect lover or you get involved in the person as a social contact and for company. What do you look for and what do you think people see in you?
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Hope that's what people think of me
Socially, it would be a person that finds interests in having discussions in topics that's not necessarily about what he/she does for a living/hobby. A funny person and someone you can talk to regarding more personal issues.
Talking to people who listen to what I say, rather than waiting for their turn to talk!
[edit] That's a good one and really applies to said friend.
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The next one might sound stupid. But I lost a lot looooot of money recently (-> financial crisis + stock market = oh the humanity!) and he pays a lot when we go out. I don't ask him for and I usually pay for him as long as my "allowance" suffices (what I allow myself to spend on weekends, usually not more than 20euro), but then he usually keeps paying, even tho I said he shouldn't but he says it's ok. We always look out for each other and he means you always become even in life (must be some karma thing).
Latter friend risked quite a few punches to defend me. there was this dipshit who insulted my friend and I stepped up for him. Being quite a sharp tongue it was about to escalate when my friend stepped between us and wouldn't let him touch me. He isn't some kind of goon either, so it takes some to do that I reckon.
With girls it's usually the ones that give me attention. Sad, I know. Explains my ineptitude with the gals. When we are casual they love my humor and like to come over for a few minutes of banter in Uni at breaks or in the morning before lecture starts. But my girl-social-crippled inner me loses that natural things when we are getting on better terms and I become more inquisitive and tend to be a bit pissed very easy (for example if they tell me they hooked up on weekend when I haven't, or tell me about their bfs) and this makes them back off a bit...
Socially, I am drawn towards people who are intelligent and optimistic. Open-mindedness is a must (tbh, I think that it is a sign of intelligence) because I have such a broad circle of comrades. I like people who smile a lot and who are passionate, or driven about something.
However, I get on with all kinds of people.
For a lover (in a monogomous relationship), they'd need to be trustworthy and keep me entertained both inside and outside the sack. I get bored very quickly, so somebody impulsive and who loves change and new experience like I do.
As for how people see me, it depends who you ask. My friends have said they consider me generous, kind-hearted and fiercely loyal. On the other hand, if you were to ask certain members on this site, you'd be half-forgiven for thinking I was a cross between Hannibal Lecter and Adolf Hitler. Hence why I almost never pay attention to what people think of me. If people spent less time seeking approval from others, they'd be a lot happier.
Peopple that will back me up even when I'm wrong and tell mje afterwards I was being a tit.
ie people that look after me.
In work I think someone that is dedicated, willing to help others for the good of the business and not just out to prove themselves, honest, willing to take considered risks.
Wanted- Inteligent and good looking male- must be under 6,2 but taller than 5,6, creative but practical, fun loving but mature in outlook, no children- but no childhaters! GSOH, open minded, caring, honest and apreciative, must not have an overwhelming passion for football, Pro evo, or cars, no homophobes, racists or sexists.
Whatever floats your boat, pal :thumb:
making you laugh till u wanna pee is also a bonus =D
also people who like southpark, charlie brooker .. etc :thumb: