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im 16 in a relationship with an 18 year old she has a child who is four months old and i love them both to pieces the child is not mine
but i dont know how to tell my parents she has a child :banghead:
but i dont know how to tell my parents she has a child :banghead:
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me is new too!!!
Not an expert but I can try to help.
What is it that you are finding the hardest?
Tell your parents in a matter of fact way. The longer you leave that info out the more concerned they will get. Also make sure you tell your parents that you like the idea of her having a kid but have not made any promises of providing for them yet. Your parents are there for you and should support and guide you. I warn you they probably won't be impressed and they will probably tell you this relationship is a bad idea but if you really like her than just stick by her. Take on your parents scornfulk words and say "I respect what your saying mom but i want to try and make the relationship work.
Your parents are more likely to support you if your an adult about the whole thing
What i really think, is that you need to tread very very carefully here. Not for your sake or your girlfriends or your parents sake, but for the sake of the baby. Youre very young yourself and this baby could get very attached to you and it isnt fair at all unless youre damn sure youre going to stick around long term, and i dont see how at 16 you could really know that. It would be different if she was keeping the baby seperate to the relationship, but the way you say you already love the child, suggests that isnt the case.
Take the gravity of that statement into consideration, you are 16, you would never leave the relationship if you had a child to consider - so for the next 15 years and 8 months you will be with this girl come hell or high water?
Its an awfully large sacrifice to make just because you dont like your parents.
Luckily babies have no permanant memory before they are 3 so you can have your fun with her and not fuck the baby in the head, but try to *think* more long term than next week about exactly what you are getting yourself into.