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Anal sex - lube question

Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
in Sex & Relationships
Hi,

I did a quick search and couldn't find any specific advice, so apologies if the answer is already here somewhere.

Anyway, I've just started having anal sex with my girlfriend and I'm looking to get some lube to make things easier.

Firstly, I wanted some recommendations. I don't want anything that does anything special, like tingle, or smell like strawberrys or glows in the dark. I'm just looking for basic stuff. Any ideas?

Also, where is the best place to get it? Would boots or somewhere similar do it or would I need to go to somewhere a little more specialist?

Thanks!

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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I've not used it myself, but I'm told that KY is good. It does say somewhere on the box about it being suitable for that purpose, I think. Anyway, it's a couple of quid in Boots/Sainsburys etc depending on what size tube you get.

    Hope that helps, I'm sure someone of more experience may be able to suggest a more specialised lube.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Your poor girlfriend! Are you only just thinking of lube now?! Hehe as has already been said, you can get lube from anywhere like big supermarkets, boots, or other pharmacies, very straightforward! I would go for the likes of KY as opposed to other own brands as I've heard they can be less effective.
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    **helen****helen** Deactivated Posts: 9,235 Supreme Poster
    Sexpert Emily Dubberley recommends specific brands of lube in this archived chat. :)
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    superdrug or boots own brand is fine

    or spit
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    any lube that is water based should do the trick i would recommend using a condom as there are some real nasties you should avoid. As your new to anal i would also recommend a de-sensitising gel or cream like cherry anal ease or china anal balm this will help relax the sphincter allowing for a easier and more enjoyable session!
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I've always read not to use de-sensitising cream for anal sex because it makes it harder to know if there has been any damage and damaging the tissue in the anus increases the risk of passing on STIs and specifically HIV.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    FireFly85 wrote: »
    Your poor girlfriend! Are you only just thinking of lube now?!

    :lol: That's EXACTLY what I was thinking. Friction burns! Ouch!
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    KY can get a bit too dry too quickly and vaseline, whilst an excellent lube can rot a condom if you use them.

    Have a look around for a product called Liquid Silk - you're lucky to have a girlfriend who enjoys it, but from the women I've done it with, Liquid Silk seems to help give them the most pleasure.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    my boyfriend and i use durex play...it cost a few quid and comes ina pump bottle...doesnt smell or do anything fancy and it lasts well ie doesnt dry up too fast :)
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    piccolo wrote: »
    I've always read not to use de-sensitising cream for anal sex because it makes it harder to know if there has been any damage and damaging the tissue in the anus increases the risk of passing on STIs and specifically HIV.

    yeah and whats the point in doing it if you cant feel it?
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