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Hey guys,
Right I just need some opinions. I'm 21 years old and I'm a student. I recently met a beautiful girl who is almost ten years older than me. Is it ok? I don't see why it wouldn't be but I just thought it would be good to know what other people think.
Right I just need some opinions. I'm 21 years old and I'm a student. I recently met a beautiful girl who is almost ten years older than me. Is it ok? I don't see why it wouldn't be but I just thought it would be good to know what other people think.
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Mate - that doesn't matter at all! You don't get with somebody just because you think your mates will think better of you, you get with them because you want to. If your mates happen to like the girl/think she's attractive etc, then bonus, but it shouldn't be a factor in you getting together.
I tried my best to get him thinking in a 'normal' mindset, and it looked like he was making progress at times - but unfortunately, he's just a confused little pup that thinks he's got it all figured out.
The thing is though, the come-uppance that everybody keeps saying he will get is unlikely to happen. If you keep ploughing through girls like they mean nothing, you don't keep them around long enough for it to come back and bite you. I've been a right player before, but as mentioned in a previous thread, I've always had respect for women - I just didn't want to stick with any one in particular, and certainly never set out to hurt anybody - although obviously some feelings were bound to get hurt along the way. This 'Hoes are for fucking' mentality is not healthy in the slightest.
The flip-side to his current mentality is clearly displayed in previous posts where when he does actually like somebody and they're not interested, it sends him into borderline rage. Rejection/failure isn't an option in his mind and so it's hard to take.
I hope he sorts himself out, but it sounds like he's happy with what he's doing, regardless of what people think of him.
There were a lot of inconsistencies in what he was saying over the months, which I asked him about by Private message.
Either way, he's gone now and so people can move along. Nothing to see here.
lets not talk about that idoit any longer
but let me just say HURAAAAAAHHHHHHHH
thats out of my system now
back to the original post
go for it
theres no reason to stop u if theres a defint connection
Good luck with it anyway dude.
As for Tinkler, if he was as much as the stud he was making himself out to be then rejection should be water off a ducks back to him surely? I personally didn't take everything he was saying as gospel.
Being with 'older' woman, is all the rage now apparently. A lot to learn, usually more mature (in the sense of case-hardened by previous partner), so they don't need to be treated like a princess all the time, etc.
Do what you feel like and don't let age interfere with what you feel (as long as she's not 11, you know...)
shake those prepubescent thoughts off! It's actually quite cool if she has her own car. Easier to see each other, etc. If your friends ridicule you for that: screw them. They are just envious, because they have to use their silly micro scooter to go places.