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Going on holiday and have bad self harm scars on arm,
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Well basically, my bf wants to go on holiday with me and its all very exciting etc
but im really thinking about saying i dont want to go because i have really bad raised scars on my arm from when i used to self harm, my bf doesnt care about them he says he doesnt even notice them - but i do they make me cover up all the time and i know that my parents would probably flip if they knew about them i have had them for about 3 years and have treated them with bio oil and scar patches on and off.
what i want to know is do you think its a good idea that i say no i dont want to go on holiday to my bf because i am very self consious about my scars and i know that i will spoil the holiday because i will be so hot and not want to do anything but stay in doors and hide - like i do here in the summer (when its hot)
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but im really thinking about saying i dont want to go because i have really bad raised scars on my arm from when i used to self harm, my bf doesnt care about them he says he doesnt even notice them - but i do they make me cover up all the time and i know that my parents would probably flip if they knew about them i have had them for about 3 years and have treated them with bio oil and scar patches on and off.
what i want to know is do you think its a good idea that i say no i dont want to go on holiday to my bf because i am very self consious about my scars and i know that i will spoil the holiday because i will be so hot and not want to do anything but stay in doors and hide - like i do here in the summer (when its hot)
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Also in the nicest possible way you are going to have to live with your scars for the rest of your life and what a better place to do it than on holiday where you won't know anyone in the first place or ever see them again - or are you planning on never going on holiday ever again?
So just go for it because if you put it off now, will you then put it off every year? Just remember why you're going on holiday - to have a relaxing and lovely time with your boyfriend and to get away from it all. You shouldn't be worried about what people think if you're never going to see them again! I'm sure no-one will notice anyway.
I think the holiday is a fab chance not to miss, do you have a pashmina or something similar that you could shoove in your hand bag just incase you do want to cover yourself up? Or how about a long sleeve kafkan?
Thanks chik, i jus feel like people will think im some kind of freak which is why i dont expose myself - well my arms :$
RandomgirlJust to clarify, are your parents invited along too?
no theyre not - thank the lord!! hehe
i went on about them as i havent told them about my scars, to show how i really dont tell everyone i know about them. :$
Wyetry
lol good idea but im kind of terrified of doing that sort of stuff.
your right it seems i am planning never to leave here, even thought i would like to.
lipsy -
thanks chick im sure your right about people not noticing. also i dont want it to become an exuse never to go on holiday.
your-babe
thanks chick i know you probably feel as i put swimming off havent been since i was 15 because after that i hated it and now i have scars.
yes i do have a pashmina and a kaftan - good thinkin!!
Makoto
thanks i will go on the website and have a browse, i have heard of it but never seen it anywhere in the shops so havent bothered.
i think i will go on holiday and not give a crap if anyone looks at me all funny and cover up if i feel that people are looking at me like a freak.
thanks everyone x
we have booked a week to spain in august im quite excited