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Soooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo
i may have thrown away the one chance to let someone know how I feel. The first person I've had any strong feelings for in a loooong time.
story goes
i've known this girl for a long time now, around 8 years. 8 years ago we kind of messed around a little, then she had to move to another country.
every time she came back to the country it was always a little awkward, in terms of "is there something here or not"
we'd write a few times, emails etc.
but then i got a girlfriend, years ago, and when she came back to the country for the first time since i got with this new girl, i got an email 5 years go. kind of saying how upset she was, and how i should "never settle for average"
anyway fast forward, i carried on going out with my girlfriend, then eventually when we broke up, this girl still comes back to the country (to see her family) and i see her a few times, AND STILL there's that "is there something here or not" feeling.
now she's just recently gone back, and i have finally realised that i really really really like her....but i never told her. to me there may not be much point, she lives on the other side of the planet now, and neither of us are big on the whole long distant relationship thing (you can't get much more distant without coming back on yourself really.)
my conundrum is.. i'm supposed to be going to university.
part of me really wants/needs to go.
part of me thinks that i have to tell her how i feel.
part of me thinks, that i'm just thinking to much into this thing and seeing a relationship that isn't there other than just being friends.
i dont know what to do, since she went i've been a bit of a wreck, i dont even know why i'm writing this, guess i'm just getting things off my chest really....
but what would other people do?
tell her? and potentially wreck what is now just a friendship by making future contact awkward.
or just let it go?
(if.....by the freak of nature that would be the coincidence YOU (you know who you are) reads this...... then.....yeah....that's just how i feel.:shocking:
i may have thrown away the one chance to let someone know how I feel. The first person I've had any strong feelings for in a loooong time.
story goes
i've known this girl for a long time now, around 8 years. 8 years ago we kind of messed around a little, then she had to move to another country.
every time she came back to the country it was always a little awkward, in terms of "is there something here or not"
we'd write a few times, emails etc.
but then i got a girlfriend, years ago, and when she came back to the country for the first time since i got with this new girl, i got an email 5 years go. kind of saying how upset she was, and how i should "never settle for average"
anyway fast forward, i carried on going out with my girlfriend, then eventually when we broke up, this girl still comes back to the country (to see her family) and i see her a few times, AND STILL there's that "is there something here or not" feeling.
now she's just recently gone back, and i have finally realised that i really really really like her....but i never told her. to me there may not be much point, she lives on the other side of the planet now, and neither of us are big on the whole long distant relationship thing (you can't get much more distant without coming back on yourself really.)
my conundrum is.. i'm supposed to be going to university.
part of me really wants/needs to go.
part of me thinks that i have to tell her how i feel.
part of me thinks, that i'm just thinking to much into this thing and seeing a relationship that isn't there other than just being friends.
i dont know what to do, since she went i've been a bit of a wreck, i dont even know why i'm writing this, guess i'm just getting things off my chest really....
but what would other people do?
tell her? and potentially wreck what is now just a friendship by making future contact awkward.
or just let it go?
(if.....by the freak of nature that would be the coincidence YOU (you know who you are) reads this...... then.....yeah....that's just how i feel.:shocking:
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Most people go to university around 18-20, which would make your sort of relationship with this girl a bit wrong.
Aside from that I'd recommend you say something, as you point out you really havent got much to loose. Its normally better to regret something you have done, than something you havent.
oh, yeah
let me clear that up
we're both in our early 20's.
i'm one of those "mature students" but mature's probably not the right word....
This might have been an indication that she was in fact a bit jealour at the time. But how long ago was this? Did she mention something like that after that point in time?
That being said, I'd be very tempted to advise you to flip the coin and try and see how it goes. Heads or tails.
However, you should also think about the possibility of having a distance relationship, especially if she's literally living on the other side of the planet. This very long distance relationships are imo the most "hardcore" distance relationships there is, and it's not for everyone. Not to be negative, but that's how it is. But, some do make it.
Ask her.