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How do you cope when parents die?
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Hi
How does someone cope when their parents die?, the people who have brought you up, supported you and the ones you've always been able to turn to when things got bad ...... i suppose in a way those of us that have had the above should be thankful since not everyone does ...... although i can't imagine that brings about much relief.
My mum is currently sat in hospital with both her parents who doctors think only have hours / days to live. My grandad has lost his mind a bit so don't really know whats going on in his head. My grandma however, who although her organs / body is failing her, her brains still in fully working order. Shes fully aware she doesn't have long left and has been saying how she doesn't want to leave us all but knows that she will soon.
Andy
How does someone cope when their parents die?, the people who have brought you up, supported you and the ones you've always been able to turn to when things got bad ...... i suppose in a way those of us that have had the above should be thankful since not everyone does ...... although i can't imagine that brings about much relief.
My mum is currently sat in hospital with both her parents who doctors think only have hours / days to live. My grandad has lost his mind a bit so don't really know whats going on in his head. My grandma however, who although her organs / body is failing her, her brains still in fully working order. Shes fully aware she doesn't have long left and has been saying how she doesn't want to leave us all but knows that she will soon.
Andy
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But everyone handles things differently and we all have our own ways of dealing with grief. There isn't one set routine for it and no right or wrong way of handling the situation.
if you wanna have a big huge cry sesh...do it
if you find something you read/see/hear funny, dont feel guilty...laugh
life MUST and DOES go on
you never get over the loss of a parent...and to be honest i dont think it gets any easier, but you learn to accept and deal with it...in your own time
it sounds weird, but in a way your mum is lucky, she is getting to say her goodbyes, getting to let them know how much she loves them, that's one of the best and worst things all rolled into one, but it sure as hell beats being unprepared for someone's death
i hope she (and you) do ok....but i'm sure yas will...big hugs x
i'm really close with my parents and still live at home so would be a real shock to the system
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I'm really unsure how I'd react, as it's something I've never experienced before.
I'm babbling!! But what others have said really.. There is definitely no right or wrong way and don't feel bad about the way you deal with it. Grief touches everyone at some point and people will be sympathetic. Friends and family are also a big help when/if you feel like talking.
My parents are my life...
I understand what you must be going through. My own Gran is quite unwell these days and I often wonder how my Mum copes/will do when the dreaded day comes.
It might help for you to take a look at the information we have on dealing with death on TheSite.org. There are also some specialist organisations you could speak to such as CRUSE on 0844 477 9400 or RD4U - an bereavement support organisation especially for young people - on 0808 808 1677.
I hope this is usefful and wish you and your family all the best.
Take care,
S x
As harsd as this might seem, i think the real way you cope is by accepting it and trying to think of ti in a positive way. I kind of felt happy about his death, not because he was dead, just in a way that he had reached the final part of his life and it's a process that happens to everyone, he's finished his journey. I wish he was here but i never lost him.
hope your grandparents are as well as can be expected and not in any pain... (sorry if that sounded daft..im not too good as expressing stuff like this, but thought i would tell you how i feel)
xx tc
Hi
Thanks all for your comments. Sadly my grandma has now died. Been to visit my grandad today who is very unsteady on his feet but managed to tell me how barmy all the other residents seem to be in the nursing home he has now been put in, made me laugh !!.
Thanks
Andy
My thoughts are with you are your family.