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What have you had to give up in a relationship ?
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Hi
What things have you given up while in a relationship? Things like hobbies which you no longer have time for?, or perhaps things due to religion?
Thanks
Andy
What things have you given up while in a relationship? Things like hobbies which you no longer have time for?, or perhaps things due to religion?
Thanks
Andy
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Nothing? ..... i doubt thats true. You loose an element of freedom for starters.
What about on religious grounds? ..... has religion ever been an issue in anyones relationships? I had a catholic g/friend ages ago who didn't believe in sex before marriage. How would people feel about that ??
Andy
i was seeing didn't like guns or shooting by the way we were married in 92
and divorced in 97 i wish i had kept my guns [sob sob!]
He always said if I moved away to go to uni we would prob end cos he cant do LD relationships, and I always said if I am going to uni it would be away...... but I wasnt clever enough to go to uni anyway!!
Why should they have to do that? Tbh if someone I went out with hated my smoking so much that they wanted me to stop they should never have got with me in the first place. Rich has never asked me to quit (except for when we have kids, which is fine), even though I know he doesn't like it that much, because he knows that I was smoking when we first got together so it would be a bit hypocritical of him to ask me to quit.
I moved to the other end of the country to a place I knew no-one. But I couldnt be happier!
You always have to give up something though. Generally other girls/blokes. It's when you have to give up stuff that you don't want to give up that you have a problem.
well if freedom is playing on the 360 and watching tv when i want, then yes, but some things u don't mind giving up or doing less of. I much prefer being able to travel and do things with my gf.
religious grounds, no one forces u to get into relationships, why should it be an issue, respect peoples choices
Like in that thread about the girl's boyfriend playing football too much... he shouldn't ever have to give up football... but maybe one day missing it to take her on a date would make her feel super special.
So yea, I've given up spending time with friends sometimes, or playing on my computer (which I do too much
On the other hand I've shown her:
Star wars ep I - VI
Robocop 1 - 3
All star trek films
All die hard films
..etc etc
I think it's the sign of a poor match if you're having to give up something important to you completely. As for smoking, well I'd try to avoid dating smokers, I'd never question their right to do so but I'd never like it. There is one girl I liked who smoked but... in the past now
I guess it's like people who have diametrically opposed political views. You can love the person, but not like what they do.
That's different though. I don't smoke inside because even I hate the smell of the stuff indoors. But it's an entirely different thing to not even consider going out with someone because they smoked rather than knowing they were a smoker, going out with them and then asking them to quit. IMO it's actually pretty rude. I would never quit because someone asked me to unless it was for a good reason (like when I get pregnant). Rich does say, "you are gonna give up sometime, right?" occasionally, but that's not the same as saying "you have to quit".
Oh and I gave up canoeing for this which is quite a big thing really and I do miss it.
Just baby steps, mind...a bit of chicken here and there, but still...that's a pretty massive deal!
What can I say? He's a very persuasive man...;)
Well it all depends on the way they ask, but in principle yes it would be rude
But I agree that coming into a new relationship and demanding they stop smoking would be completely rude. But if it was me, I might drop hints
Mmm I'm not sure if it would be rude. That person may just not like it because it is damaging your health and so are worried about you. I want my mum to quit smoking and it worries me all the time! One of the factors is yes it's smelly but I want her to quit more so for her health.
cuz he loves u and doesnt want you to get lung cancer...
Mm, I could never eat meat and it's definitely not something I'd change about myself in order to have a relationship.
God no, I'd never eat meat to please a partner.
The funny thing is when I met my boyfriend he ate meat and I was a veggie. He started to like veggie food because I cooked it, and decided to give up meat after seeing some nasty videos on the internet. I actually tried to persuade him to keep eating meat and get it from a reliable non cruel source but he was adamant and never ate meat again. I always get the blame for turning him veggie though!
Never again. Compromise is always a necessity, but I'll never let it get to the lengths it once did.
Indeed. I could never go out with a smoker.
On the smoking thing, I've been with a couple of smokers and makes no difference to me. Only downside is that it made me more likely to start puffing away again just to be sociable :no: