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new life making me lonely, confused and unloved
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Hi guys. not really posted on here in a while, but ive managed to borrow someone's internet, because i need to write all this stuff down. What i really want to know is; is what im feeling normal?
basically; just over a month ago i moved out of home for the first time, started a new job+moved into a house with 2 other guys. i love the job, have made quite a few friends, get on well with my housemates and love the area.
However, i feel lonely. ive not seen my boyfriend for bout 6 weeks now, just before new year, and ive kinda got a soft spot for the guys im living with. id never cheat on my boyfriend, but i dont like the feeling of lonelyness and feeling unloved.....and i dont like the fact that i keep thinking about my housemate in a way i shouldnt when im in a relationship
also, we went out on saturday night and i was quite flirty with my other house mate. i think im just missing the attention i used to get off my boyfriend, but right now i feel so sad, low and such a horrible person.
im seeing my boyfriend this weekend, but it doesnt help that we wont be able to do anything, since im due on
So, what im asking you all is; am i a total cow for missing things like hugs, having someone put their arm around me+compliments???
If you need more info, il try to oblige, but please dont think im a horrible person.....because i really feel bad about all this!
basically; just over a month ago i moved out of home for the first time, started a new job+moved into a house with 2 other guys. i love the job, have made quite a few friends, get on well with my housemates and love the area.
However, i feel lonely. ive not seen my boyfriend for bout 6 weeks now, just before new year, and ive kinda got a soft spot for the guys im living with. id never cheat on my boyfriend, but i dont like the feeling of lonelyness and feeling unloved.....and i dont like the fact that i keep thinking about my housemate in a way i shouldnt when im in a relationship
also, we went out on saturday night and i was quite flirty with my other house mate. i think im just missing the attention i used to get off my boyfriend, but right now i feel so sad, low and such a horrible person.
im seeing my boyfriend this weekend, but it doesnt help that we wont be able to do anything, since im due on
So, what im asking you all is; am i a total cow for missing things like hugs, having someone put their arm around me+compliments???
If you need more info, il try to oblige, but please dont think im a horrible person.....because i really feel bad about all this!
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what your feeling is normal you have been through alot of change with moving out etc. my other half works away alot and i get lonely, and been in a similar situatuin. all i can suggest is that make sure you are keeping in contact with him, emails,phone calls etc.
is their any way you can get your b/f to come a week later if your concerned about not getting any sex?
Don't beat yourself up about missing hugs and stuff its normal, all my friends can tell when my other half is away as i get all cuddley with everyone lol
Just make the most of the time you have with your guy, chill out and hug and kiss lots and if you are on you can give him lots of attention too so that he realise's how much you appreciate him and miss him:thumb:
It's only natural to miss the attention someone would be normally giving you if they are not there. I think you need to decide though if you like your house mate because of the attention he is showing you, or if you don't want to be with your boyfriend anymore. It doesn't sound like you want finish with your boyfriend, but if you're going to be feeling like this when you're not around him, it's not fair on you or him.
It sounds like you've gone through some big changes recently, moving house, new job etc, so it's to be expected that your feelings will be a bit over the place. Just talk things through with your boyfriend and let him know how you feel. Sounds like you need a little hug
im actually going home the week after, so its all good in that respect, lol.
TC - thanx alot. i dont want to finish with my boyfriend, i was just worrying bcos of what i was thinking. il never have to go this long without seeing him again, its was because of money issues for us both and important commitments that we had to go so long, BUT i get paid on friday, so il be seeing him twice a month at the very least! we both work all week+he works saturdays, so he's gonna be coming up sat nigts to see me and spend sunday with me!!
ANy other advice is still welcome guys....
I think it sounds difficult with your situation, your only seing him twice a month thats not much. But it might be enough if you love him. You will know this already.. Its natural to feel that way im sure.. but well done to you for remaining loyal.
As i speak i've just been told to stop texting my crush "like he's my boyfriend" becuase its annoying him apparently. yet we have spoke well late in the mornings for months, and all of a sudden im in the wrong. His head keeps changing his opinion of me...
Loves xx