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Long distance relationships
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Me again... It's just these kind of things interest me and I wanted to know what you guys think.
Have you ever been in work?
Did it work?
If so, for how long, and are you still together?
If not, how come, and how long did you last?
Thanks in advance
Have you ever been in work?
Did it work?
If so, for how long, and are you still together?
If not, how come, and how long did you last?
Thanks in advance
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LDRs can work if both parties are committed. They are extremely hard work, can be emotionally taxing, but worth it if you are prepared to put in the effort. I know of couples who have done it across countries before and it worked out so it is possible
I have been in them before though when I haven't been completely committed to the rel and they've not worked because I just haven't seen the point in the hassle and emotional hurt caused by them.
Started off as Essex-London, which was hard enough, but now it's Newcastle-London (about 400 miles I think) and it's horrible. We've been together 14 and a half months though, and still going strong. We got engaged about a month ago . It is very hard, I only see him every other weekend and I do find it difficult when I'm sitting in on my own and he's out with his friends but we both really want it to work so we're staying positive. We do have bad days, but it always works out .
This is hard work!
I ended up in tears on Saturday night because he wasn't there.
I think that says it all really.
This is completely true, if you cant see either of you wanting to move in the future, it just won't happen unfortunately.
I did the move, and I left everything behind, but I don't regret it, as I get to be with him every day, which I think I personallt appreciate more than those who haven't been in LDRs as you know what it is like for them to not be there.
I wouldn't do it again though, it was too much heartache, so I am sticking here now!
thats what you think! :P
only joking, it was hard, but its worth it if you stick at it, involved a lot of grumpy driving the 130miles every other weekend, but you get used to it after a while.
now she's here, its all fine, she has to become a burnlier and never leave. its too good a place to leave really.
I met my boyfriend via friends, who met him online. He lived over 300 miles away. We were together for only a few weeks before he moved to my home town to live with some of the aforementioned friends. I didn't like the long distance thing to be honest. I missed him like crazy, but then we were in the 'honeymoon' stage. He used to drive here every Friday after work and he was so tired that he would be grumpy all weekend and then not want to go home on the Sunday so would stay an extra day.
I'd agree with others who say that one person will have to move in the end.
Also they say, distance makes the heart grow fonder!
The travelling and 'envy' of other people seeing your bf/gf every day but you not being able to was never an issue. It was the fact that the distance gave my ex-bf (by his own admission) the opportunity to switch off and not have to be there for me if he felt he didn't have the time - he'd just switch his phone off and obviously I couldn't just turn up on his doorstep instead of calling because I was 2 hours away.
I guess what I'm trying to say is that you have to be able to give the extra support over the phone/email/MSN/webcam that usually just hugs would provide if you lived round the corner from each other - a trait which my dear ex was severly lacking! :rolleyes:
Well my bf is at uni about 1.5/2hrs away from me and when he's at uni i maybe see him about once/twice a month. Basically he has 4/5 weeks break at easter and xmas and bout 2/3 months in the summer so i see him nearly every day then. During term time i go stay with him for like 5 days when i have half term (im in sixth form) and he comes back 2 weekends out of the 10 weekends he has in his term, but because i stay and he gets long hols its ok. its hard when he's not here and i get really stressy when we're apart but i think he think its worth it for the great times we have when we're together. hope it will work as we love each other very much
We got married in December, but due to various things, I can't move up to be with him until the beginning of May. It is very difficult, but I'm counting down the days
Did it work? FOR A WHILE BUT IN THE END IT WAS JUST TO MUCH!
If so, for how long, and are you still together? 2 YEARS WE WERE TOGETHER, BUT ONLY SAW EACH OTHER ABOUT 3 TIMES A YEAR THINK IF WE HAD SEEN EACH OTHER MORE IT COULD HAVE BEEN DIFFERENT. IT STARTED AS A CYBER RELATIONSHIP WE TALKED EVERYDAY TOLD EACH OTHER ALL OUR SECRETS AND WROTE SOPPY LOVE LETTERS TO EACH ALL DAY LONG IT WAS GREAT, REALLY ROMANTIC I HAVE NO REGRETS, BUT SOMETIMES YOU JUST NEED SOMTHING PHYSICAL!