what to do

Former Member

hey im 19 iv been goin out with this girl for a cpl of weeks now like bf/gf, but the only thing that upsets me is that shes still good friends with her ex, like she goes shopping and stuff like that with him should i feel upset at this or just let it go cuz i know shes friends with her and dont want to seem clingy or anything

Former Member

No, you have no right to be upset.

If you care about her, you should care about her happiness and her right to be friends with who she wants.

Former Member

it depends whether you can get over it or not. Youve only been seeing her for a couple of weeks, so if theres somethng that really bugs you, youre under no obligation to continue the relationship for whatever reason you choose.
You dont really have the right to try and stop her from being friends with her ex though.
Do you think theres more in it than just friendship? Was it a recent split?

Former Member

You shouldn't try and stop her socialising with her ex, but if you think she still has a lot of feelings for him and would really rather be with him then you may be right to end the relationship.

Depends, doesn't it.

Former Member

i'm best friends wit my ex and i know it makes my current byfrnd upset but he has to trust me. Girls and boys can be just friends like i am with my ex. he should trust her cause if he dosnt what the point in going with her

Former Member

And what exactly is wrong with being friends with an ex? Why shouldn't someone be friends with a person they've had a relationship with? Unless the relationship ended in a seriously bad way, I don't see much reason for not doing so.

I suspect you're just scared that she may feel more for him than she does for you. And I can tell you now that it isn't a good road to go down.

Former Member

You cant say there is anything specifically and actually wrong with being best buddies with an ex, because some people wont mind and some people will.

If it was me, I wouldnt mind my partner being friends with someone they saw if it wasnt too serious a thing, but being best friends with someone they were deeply in love with I know id have a problem with that.

Former Member

I can understand where you are coming from but its probably better that she sees him as a friend than hating him for something, atleast you know that whatever happens you know that you will most likely stay friends

Former Member

How long did they go out for?

If they went out for more than say 2-3 months, trust your instincts. If they were friends and tried it out and it didn't work (which they would've figured out rather quickly) no worries, but if they dated for long time and are still hanging out, I would rethink how she feels about you.

Good luck

Former Member

Vino wrote: »

How long did they go out for?

If they went out for more than say 2-3 months, trust your instincts. If they were friends and tried it out and it didn't work (which they would've figured out rather quickly) no worries, but if they dated for long time and are still hanging out, I would rethink how she feels about you.

Good luck

:yes: Thats realy good advice, i agree completely!