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how soon is to soon before moving in, like how long should you wait?
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In my case, Ive waited 3 years
I understand what you mean though, it would be conveniant and if you've spent everyday with eachother anyway and everything's fine, then of course it's your decision.
Just be careful though, moving in is a big step and if things don't work out between you, then it could turn ugly.
I know a couple of my friends who moved in together (well she got kicked out of her house so there wasn't much choice in the matter) after a month of going out with eachother it completely destroyed them both and although they stuck it out for nearly a year they grew to hate eachother. Needless to say they aren't together any more.
Another couple of friends I know moved in together after six months or so and it worked out really well she still lives with him now and they are really happy.
It varies from couple to couple but I think it's always best if it's not rushed.
Have you thought of all the practial aspects of it as well, like paying the rent and the bills, food shopping etc rather than just "woo I want to live with my bf"?
Or your other option is to find a shared house in his area - that way you would still be near him to be able to see him more often, but you both still have your independence - and you could still get a job there. Then in six months or so you could see how you both feel and if you'd still like to live together. I think if there's any doubt or feelings of pressure related to living together then it's best to wait just a little longer. Hope it all works out for the best
I think that is the most important thing to consider. I don't think he feels ready for that step and IMO that kinda makes it a non starter.
He found out about my messiness and hate for cleaning, i found out about his snoring, sleep talking/walking and that was the least of our worries. But to be fair i think that will happen whenever you move in with someone, the key is making sure your relationship has reached the stage where it can survive those things.
If you hate it at home you could move to the same town as him, and see him more. Just because you can't live with him doesn't mean you shouldn't move.
If things at home are difficult then maybe look at moving in with a friend?