Is it possible to be bored with sex?

Former Member

I'm just back home after spending the night at my girlfriend's place. We had a great time, and I like her a lot, but she's unintentionally helped bring out something about me that I never paid attention to before.

It takes me a really long time to orgasm. I used to think this was a good thing (better than it happening too quick, yeah?) but when I have sex it takes a lot of thrusting before I climax. I don't feel any of the build-up beforehand - the orgasm just suddenly happens. It's almost as if my mind wanders during it.

I also tend to lose my hard-on, and if it's the second or third time we're having sex that night I don't come at all. It leaves me feeling embarrassed and unsatisfied. My girlfriend's already asked me the "Is it me?" question.

Some of you might be thinking that I'm just not sexually attracted to my girlfriend. I thought this could be it too, until I realised that even when I wank my dick isn't completely hard anymore, and hasn't been for quite a few months now. I guess I haven't noticed before because I've not had sex with someone long-term for a while. I'm not stimulated sexually by my girlfriend or porn - can I really be bored with sex?

What I want to know is whether any of the other guys on here have gone through something similar? Have you not had a full hard-on for a long period of time? And does anyone think I should go see a doctor, or is this just a psychological thing?

Former Member

If you're coming two or three times a night then of course you're going to find it harder to come.

Former Member

Especially if there isn't much of a time gap inbetween. Give your bollocks/prostate time to refill dude

Former Member

Abstain for a month. Your penis will krakatoa.

Indrid Cold

junker wrote: »

Abstain for a month. Your penis will krakatoa.

...will crack a toe?

Former Member

Of course you guys are right, you need to be on steroids or something to be capable of going several times a night, every night. That was just an example with me, we've only tried that once or twice at most.

My bigger concern is that I'm feeling indifferent to all kinds of sex. It's like nothing stimulates me - and, like I say, I don't think it's anything to do with the girl, because I feel the same when I wank as well.

Former Member

Have you any stress or anything pressing on your mind at the moment? This can cause a disinterest in sex if your mind is occupied by other things.

Former Member

Indrid Cold wrote: »

...will crack a toe?

HAHAHA http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Krakatoa

Indrid Cold

Jarvey Of Suburbia wrote: »

HAHAHA http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Krakatoa

Yes, I know.

Former Member

Is it the action of sex you find boring?

Would you rather be getting it with your gf or not getting anything at all?

Former Member

I would find sex to be quite engaging I imagine.

Former Member

I would say it's the action of sex that I find boring. I'm never really desperate to have it, and my mind tends to wander during it. I don't think I'd "rather not have it" at all - I'm indifferent. It doesn't affect me if I do or if I don't.

And that's not a nice thing to type. Aren't we all meant to crave sex, and enjoy it when we get it?