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I've got the same problem at the moment. My mum hates the guy I'm seeing cos of how he treated me the last time we were together and a few other bits and pieces. I can't convince her that he is good for me, but hopefully over time we'll show her how good we are together and she'll come round to understanding why I feel like I do about him. Until then it's just gonna be a long hard struggle.
Even your have to get your guy to show your parents that hes a nice person, or you just might have to accept you cant change their opionions overnight.
That seems pretty spot on to me.
It's the second part that really gets you though, isn't it.
Was it a case of an overly protective father then you could shrug it off, but you know that there is a reason.
Talk to your Dad, tell him that you know that he doesn't like the chap, that you think that everyone should be given a chance and that your happiness is what really matters - regardless of what your parents think of the bloke.
Remember though, Dad will be there if it all goes tits-up.
but at the end of the day it is also right that your boyfriend proves how much he loves you etc as well.
i dont get on with my bfs parents basically cz they still treat him like a 5yr old and dont want him to grow up.
Go the white grenache wisdom- if only I had known that ten years ago though.
I'd go with this.
Especially as you refer to him as Dick Head Number 3. Hardly a good start...
But as long as you prepare yourself for the 'I told you so' speech in case things do go wrong, bear in mind your father just wants the best for you and obviously if you're going out with a guy who's got a record it's going to set alarm bells off - but all you can do is prove him wrong
Best of luck!
Yeah he's met him twice. Once when I was in town with him a while ago and the next time was when he arrested him.
Some of that is probably right I already have my doubts but I do really like him.
I knew what he's like before I got involved with him and I don't expect him to change or to become a good boy.
:eek: :eek2:
... and you wonder why he disapproves!?
:eek:
To be honest if that's one of the ways they had their first meeting, I reckon it's going to take an awfully long time for your dad to change his mind on your b/f...
As for practical advice, I think all you can do is make sure your parents hear about how well he is treating you, make sure he is always uber-respectful and polite when he meets them and just hope that he proves himself. Parents have a right to worry about their offsprings' partners, it's just part of caring for you.
I know it's bad ... part of me wanders what I am doing
But the other part of me likes and cares about him so much so I will try and make this work whether my dad likes him or not
You're not Pepper from Neighbours are you?
Yep Im writing from dahn unda now !
Whats Pepper's problem? I don't watch Neighbours
:eek:
Nuff said. Nothing sticks like a bad first impression. Damn that boy has a big moutain to climb.
Out of interest what was he arrested for...?
Drug related assult breaking and entering a house bulguraly
Fuck that.
Jesus girl, what ARE you getting yourself into?
Whaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaat ?
Fuck that.
I really don't know
Personally I would say get out of it before you get any deeper.
:yes: If he's robbing houses, he's obv a scum bag.
I'm all for the drugs, but......................................
Breaking and entering. Worse than shit on my shoe.
:yes: Get rid hun.
You can't really blame your dad for disapproving, espescially after what this guy has done...your dad loves you and is obviously very worried and with very good reason.
I've got to say, drug related assault, breaking and entering a house and burgalry aren't really just minor offences... are you sure you can trust this geezer?
Having said that, if you really like eachother then all this means fuck all to you, I understand that. You're going to carry on seeing eachother whether your dad likes it or not and I suppose your dad needs time to understand that? Then maybe suggest they meet up for a drink or something and get this guy to really fucking try and be polite and show that he is actually the nice guy that you see.
Good luck.
Fucking hell. Nothing small then.
I agree with your father TBH, I wouldn't want my daughter anywhere near this bloke. Hell, I wouldn't want either of my sons anywhere near him either.
And I know deep down that I should end it but I know it's gonna be hard because I've liked him for so long.