wots wrong with me?

BillieTheBot

i dnt understand.
this boy i like says he loves me
says im the most bueatifal girl in the world
says he wants to make love to me
but then he says he dnt want a relationship!
he says he just wants to make love to me thats it.i love him so much i dnt know wot to do.help!

Former Member

For a start he doesnt't want to make love to you, he just wants sex. If you like him then you won't be able to just have sex without emotions, I'd steer well clear of him, unless he wants commitment from you. You need to know what you want from him.

Former Member

Yep, he doesnt love you..He just wants to shag you.

Former Member

Zella,

If he is sayin all them things and hes tellin u he loves you yet he doesnt want a relationship then he needs to get his head sorted cos ' I LOVE YOU ' is not a word to chuck about unless u both really mean it and your serious with eachother.

Best thing i wud do is talk to him about it seriously and ask him y he doesnt want a relationship and wot is holdin him back. Thats the only way ur gona find out but dont be fooled into thinkn that when sumone says they love you they mean it, cos alot of boys have different ideas when they say that to get round to other things... but PLEASE just dont do anything out of boundries til uve had a good talk to him.

I hope that helps you a lil.

Cheers
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Former Member

He claims he loves you, You claim you love him...

If he is scared of comitment yet chucks around the 'i love you' comments then sod him...

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> He sounds as if he only wants a quick bang on the sofa... Deprive him of the oppurtunity
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Former Member

All in good reason with tellin him to piss off but we dont actually know the fall situation between these two, whats there history?? she just said he loves her and she loves him, there must be a reason y Zella is feelin like this.

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He says he wants to 'make love to you and that's it'. Yet he also says he loves you but doesn't want a relationship??
It seems as if this guy just wants a quick shag and then bugger off. Don't fall for it, believe me, you'll most probably regret it later. If he loved you, wouldn't he want more than to just 'make love to you and that's it'???

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If he loved you he'd want commitment.

If he loved you, he wouldn't want to only have sex with you.

When he says he loves you and he wants to "make love" to you, then that's just his way of making the whole thing sound more romantic, and he probably thinks there's more of a chance you'll say yes if you think he loves you. If you ask me, when he says he wants to "make love" to you, it's his way of making it sound like it'd mean something to him.

Sorry to be blunt, but blokes like this are a waste of space. You'd just end up getting hurt and made a fool of.

Former Member

all of the above, dont waste your time. Geez guys think they can use a "romantic" term like 'makin love' and u should be grateful.
would be nothing different from a one nite stand
theres nowt wrong with you, but there would be if you went ahead with it

Former Member

Use him for a shag like he is you. <IMG SRC="biggrin.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">

Former Member

Hey thanks! i have this same problem & now i realise everything. Don't shag him or you will make the same mistake i did!!!

Former Member

ah shit -poor you. don't know how old you are but at 16 the same thing happened to me. i remember really puzzling over it and how it couldn't make any sense that he could "love" me yet not want to be with me. Looking back it seems like i was really naive, but i guess it just takes a bit of man-practice to decode their (occasional) bullshit.

sorry he's made you feel so blue, but everyrone is right. you should steer clear unless you think you can handle the sex without the relationship (and you know, fewer people can, than you'd probably think). i say wait until you find someone who realises what you catch you are and who wants to make love to you AND be with you.

all the best, H xxx

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P.S. there's nothing wrong with you! he's just being a male. i promise that some day you'll look back and wonder what all the fuss was about - you just have to keep your eye on that time, in order to get you through this time. <IMG SRC="cool.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">

be cool

Former Member

I hope you don't (or haven’t yet) fallen for his lies. I strongly suggest you stay away from this guy because if you don't, girl you are going to get burnt.

He is using the word love as a tool to get you to do what he wants, giving you a false sense of security so that you will sleep with him. This, if you ask me, is a very low thing to do.

From all the warning I got when I was growing up (and I’m still growing and still being warned) I thought that’s how all guys were, but that’s not true. There are genuine men out there who will want to make love to you because they are in love with you and they want to take the relationship to the next level.

This guy is not genuine and he doesn’t deserve to be taken to you bed. Hang out for someone who treats you like a princess...
That’s my advice

Former Member

I once got dumped off a guy then for him to fone me a few days later saying 'well we can still do stuff cant we...like have sex' i promptly hung up!guys are assholes and will use any methods to get a shag-dont give them the pleasure...wait until someone comes along who feels the same way as you do...even then dont jump into bed with him strait away! hope it all works out! <IMG SRC="wink.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">

Former Member

I would get rid of him straight away, he doesn't want to make love to you, he wants sex with no strings attached. You can do better than that.

Former Member

Don't do it it won't be worth it. You wll rgret it and you will come out worse off.

Former Member

easy.

he wnts 2 shag u - probably because he wants to tell his mates.

steer clear of this loser and find someone who's interested in you and not his rep.

this guy obviously isnt worth it and shouldn't be in your life.

Former Member

[QUOTEguys are assholes and will use any methods to get a shag

excuse me very much Char_Baby but I happen to be one of the nice guys out there who is only out for relationships. i've never slept around and i've never lied to get a girl in bed. so i'd appreciate it if you'd keep your stereotypical views in your handbag please.

i can honestly say that not 1 of my friends is a man-slut, and not 1 of them has lied to a girl to get anywhere with them.

in fact, 4 of my best mates (and myself) are in meaningfull relationships that have lasted 8 months and upwards. my oldest bud is getting married next august and he met his fiance when he was 17. obviously all the wankers live in the same town as you.