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Jealousy
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Im sure everyones been jealous at some point round a girl/boy etc.
theres this girl that i like, and know she likes me. We were out last night for a work do for a meal. I sat with 2 mates on our own table, 5 or so minutes later she changes table and sits next to me (bonus!!:yippe: ).
We held hands for a little bit, just general flirting, nothing too major.
We then head outside for just a chat, and for people to smoke etc.
She hugs a couple of my best mates, and i know it sounds stupid, but got really jealous and just feel really down. Ive already confided in the 2 guys previously, and they know how jealous i get, and im like that whether ive been drinking or not.
Any ideas in how to stop being so jealous for no reason at all?
theres this girl that i like, and know she likes me. We were out last night for a work do for a meal. I sat with 2 mates on our own table, 5 or so minutes later she changes table and sits next to me (bonus!!:yippe: ).
We held hands for a little bit, just general flirting, nothing too major.
We then head outside for just a chat, and for people to smoke etc.
She hugs a couple of my best mates, and i know it sounds stupid, but got really jealous and just feel really down. Ive already confided in the 2 guys previously, and they know how jealous i get, and im like that whether ive been drinking or not.
Any ideas in how to stop being so jealous for no reason at all?
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Shy around me maybe? i always ask for hugs off her, and usually get declined etc.
Guess ive never been this close to someone, i dont want to see her disappear to someone else tbh.
Hi Lucasinio :wave: ,
Just just wanted to say don't be too hard on yourself. Most people get jealous some time or other - it's just a matter of learning to deal with it and not let it take over. Although some of it might not be relevant, you might find this article on jealousy useful - it offers some handy hints on how to cope.
Good luck and I hope things work out for you.
S x
I wouldnt say I'm reaaaaaally jealous but at the same time I don't like girls flirting with my boyfriend infront of me.
I don't mind when the lad I'm with gets jealous as long as it's control and endearing not creepy and obessive.
Mate, I get jealous over stupid little things like this too, even more so when I'm drinking.
In fact, alcohol combined with my pathetic jealousy has turned me into a proper cunt towards both the girl and my friends/other guys.
There isn't really any way to stop it, except to really think about it and tell yourself that you're being pathetic.
If you do have a real reason to be jealous, then just move on to someone else and try to forget about her.
I'm quite jealous sometimes, but I've learned over the years not to let it take over.
:yes:
I agree. Someone once said to me 'jealousy is cancer of the soul' and they werent wrong. Make sure you get a hold of your jealousy and learn to deal with it. It can be an incrediblly destructive emotion.
Well, we went bowling tonight with her and some students shes got staying. I told myself before i drove down to not let it affect me. She was hugging them after like a strike etc, i could hear it niggling away in the background, but i was in no way as pissed off as usual.:)
The best thing we can do is just shove it to the back of our minds as best we can, and it sounds like you're doing quite a good job of that!
Thanks everyone for your comments, very useful indeed :yes:
I don't think he realises I get jealous at all, because he isn't the type to do so himself, so I haven't mentioned it because then I think it would become more of a deal than it actually is.