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Do I Or Dont I?
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Ok, my best mates missus was out last night and i found her holding hands and putting her self all over this geezer. the thing is do i say something to my best mate or not, i dont want him to find out i knew and he then cant trust me with anything but then i dont want to tell him and be in the middle of something.
Any Help Appreciated?
Any Help Appreciated?
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The reason I ask is because if there is any chance that your mate might think you like her too he might go on the defensive and take it the wrong way, accusing you of trying to steal her etc. It happens a lot, believe it or not.
The other thing is, how serious do you think the gf was with this other guy? Do you think it was a drunken mistake, because if so, maybe you should keep schtum and let her learn from her own mistakes (we all make them).
But if you think it could be something more serious/intended, and if you and your mate have a solid relationship, it might be worth telling him sooner rather than later, just make sure its the right time and place - for example, don't get him drunk first (that can fuel aggression).
Good luck
-Jess-
Tell her what you saw and tell her that she needs to explain herself or at least come clean if she was doing something which she shouldn't have...
Tough one. Sorry that was no help at all.
I'd go with saying to her about it, almost like a light threat to scare her.
If possible that should be the extent of your involvement, but if she won't tell him you should. I'd always appreciate it if one of my friends told me something like that, rather than keeping quiet to save their own skins.
I would keep out of it until you have a lot of evidence counting against his gf before you go telling anyone anything. Wait and see if she keeps throwing herself at other blokes, and confront her about her behaviour first before going to your friend.