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cockteasing
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I read a recent post about the meaning of a cock tease and it got me thinking. I do find a few people I know really attractive, some to the point where I daydream about sleeping with them (lol), and I guess I do flirt a bit, but what degree of flirting would you say classed as 'cock teasing'. Does dressing up, being friendly, having a certain 'I fancy you' look in your eye etc etc... qualify?
I have one example, see what you think:
I fancied this guy for like a year, thought he wasn't really interested but one night he confessed he was, a lot. I told him then I felt the same...but we both had partners. Nothing happened for another year even though we had spent time alone driving somewhere etc, so I thought maybe he was just drunk and didn't mean it. Then one night over a year later, we walked on our own after a party and he turned to me and said he was going to kiss me. Part of me really wanted to, but part of me just didn't feel right somehow and I knew I didn't want to carry on. We ended up going so far, but didn't actually have sex because I stopped it before that point.
We are still great friends and in a way things between us are better because we do have this dirty secret that no-one else in our group knows about, and theres always the sort of eye contact that says that, so we havent had any damaging effects as a result.
So, does this make me a cocktease? In a bad way?
I guess sometimes I really fancy guys, flirt, want them desperately, but by the time I realise they actually feel the same way I don't feel as strongly and then feel really unsure about things. So now, when I really like someone, I am scared to flirt incase they hit on me and I don't want to go anywhere with it - yet at the same time I want to flirt outrageously because I fancy them! Bit of a stuck situation..!
-Jess-
I have one example, see what you think:
I fancied this guy for like a year, thought he wasn't really interested but one night he confessed he was, a lot. I told him then I felt the same...but we both had partners. Nothing happened for another year even though we had spent time alone driving somewhere etc, so I thought maybe he was just drunk and didn't mean it. Then one night over a year later, we walked on our own after a party and he turned to me and said he was going to kiss me. Part of me really wanted to, but part of me just didn't feel right somehow and I knew I didn't want to carry on. We ended up going so far, but didn't actually have sex because I stopped it before that point.
We are still great friends and in a way things between us are better because we do have this dirty secret that no-one else in our group knows about, and theres always the sort of eye contact that says that, so we havent had any damaging effects as a result.
So, does this make me a cocktease? In a bad way?
I guess sometimes I really fancy guys, flirt, want them desperately, but by the time I realise they actually feel the same way I don't feel as strongly and then feel really unsure about things. So now, when I really like someone, I am scared to flirt incase they hit on me and I don't want to go anywhere with it - yet at the same time I want to flirt outrageously because I fancy them! Bit of a stuck situation..!
-Jess-
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Yep, there was a thread about being a cock tease, and my what a thread THAT was :rolleyes: from what you've been saying, I wouldn't say you were a cock tease, just not a very confident flirt! Have a read back through the last thread (well, the first few pages, before it got bitchy) and see how it relates to you.
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I think its more than flirting. What you describe is someone toying with someone's emotions. To me, a cock teaser implies someone who, by their actions and demeanour, give every obvious impression that they want to have sex with you - but blow you out when you start to respond to their advances because (as you say) they have no interest in you.
Thanks everyone