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its not for me its my sister, cos im worried about her.
shes having sex with her bf but they dont use any protection although he pulls out before he ejaculates, even though he pulls out before can she get pregnant
im just really confused and dont want her to get pregnant cos shes only 14, ive told her to use a condom if she is going to do anything but she wont listen
shes having sex with her bf but they dont use any protection although he pulls out before he ejaculates, even though he pulls out before can she get pregnant
im just really confused and dont want her to get pregnant cos shes only 14, ive told her to use a condom if she is going to do anything but she wont listen
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I suppose it will depend on how good your relationship with her is if she will listen or not but you can always try
gah - I'm so paranoid about the whole thing and always have been. I don't get how some people can be so unbothered.
If she isn't using protection because she is embarassed about going to see someone about it or buying condoms then thats really silly. I had an abortion at the age of 16 and let me tell you being examined by Drs and having my bits messed with was much worse than discussing contraception with my GP.
If theres an issue with her boyfriend not wanting to use them and making her feel she cant ask him to then thats totally disrepectful to her and she needs to let him know, she wants him giftwrapped or not at all.
Another idea could be to buy her a packet of the more 'interesting' condoms and see if the novelty value appeals.
Drag her down the doctors for the pill if she wont use condoms
A lot of young people have a very lax attitude towards pregnancy and STIs, and often a lot of them have to deal with them the hard way. Some learn from this, others don't. You're in a horrible position as a bystander, all you can do is keep trying to get through to her, and if all else fails, support and be there for her if she needs help further down the line.
:yes: I also agree with go_away in that at the end of the day the responsibility falls on her. In terms of arming her with info - here's some links to facthseets and games that you could direct her to on Sexwise's website R U THINKING - the content on the website is aimed at a younger audience than TheSite.org.
Here's a link to a pregnancy myths quiz that your sister could do - it's a fun way for her to find out that you can get pregnant (and STIs) if a guy uses the pull-out method. She may also be interested in finding out about the different types of contraception available. As Scary Monster says, she may be able to get the pill from a family planning clinic.
Also, I know this is may sound like a harsh line, but you may also want to remind your sister of the laws related to sex under 16.
Finally, it sounds like you're a really responsible person and want to do the right thing by your sister - that's really great. But try not to put too much pressure on yourself - if you're educating her then your job is done.
Take care.