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when the butterflies in your relationship have gone
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i was just interested to hear how long it's been with different couples untill the butterflies went in your relationship? like,you know, that initial feeling when you always have that excitement and buzz. ive been going out with my girlfriend for nearly 11 months, and i would say the exteme excitement went after about 4 months. after that, things have still been great, we have found ways to keep excited about each other and doing really sweet things for each other. it's maybe only been the past month or so that iv begun to notice things getting slightly less exciting. the frustrating thing i think for me is that i feel exactly the same as the day i first met her, and i would be prepared to show my excitement all the time, its just a lot of the time i dont get it back from her and i feel that there is no point in being all excited if im not getting anything back. i would just be interested to see what other peoples views and experiences are on this sort of thing. for example, has anyone here had the same problem but is still goin strong with their partner even though that buzz has gone?
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Aw, that's dead cute!
The key is not taking each other for granted.
It gets bad when you spend a Sunday afternoon painting the rendering on the outside of the house, and it gets worse when you start enjoying it...
They were never really frequent anyway, so nothing's changed there. Only thing I think has changed is that we spend less time doing couply things, like going out for a meal, or coffee, or to the cinema. Partly money issues though.
funny thing is, when we first started seeing each other, we had sex maybe only bout once every two weeks or so, it didnt really bother us. now, we do it nearly every time we see each other, which is a bit strange dont u think.
All this nesting makes me think of us as little birds, is it just me?
Christ, he has no excuse not to do it now. Fool...
Yeh.
It's a blessed respite from the constant nagging.
:chin:
I was determined not to get into the same situation again. New relationship, the butterflies lasted nearly 2 years because we were living 100 miles apart!!! Once he moved in, a few months on it was all routine. We're still together and quite happy, but i can't say it's exciting or passionate. I'm not sure if everyone is capable of being "excited" for ever (don't think i am!!!) so then you have to decide, chuck out a good relationship once the thrill goes and start all over again, or hang in there and work on what you have? Past a certain age, my guess is that the starting over thing will get less and less appealing!