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aunt treating my grandma horribly
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Here's the situation: my grandma used to live with me in my parents house but my parents don't actually live there as they live in Malaysia so it was just my grandma and I. When I turned 18 my grandma had to go and stay with my aunt at her flat. My aunt doesn't actually live in the flat, her 16 year old son does. My aunt lives 4 hours away with a man she met on the internet, shacked up with, didn't want her kids so she chose them over him, severly abused her but you know, that doesn't matter. So basically, all my grandma was there to do was to be a babysitter for my cousin.
Which would be fine except my 73 year old grandma, who is probably the tiniest, most frail person you might meet, has to do all the work and look after a yorkshire terrier, who is the most untrained, most annoying dog who barks all day and they have had so many complaints about. My grandma obviously can't take this hyperactive dog out for walks and my cousin obviously can't lift his legs up to do it so the dog ends up peeing and doing his business in the flat that my grandma has to pick up and clean. My grandma also does all the house work without any help whatsoever from my cousin because he is just so damn lazy. My grandma is always so sick when she's there. Whenever she comes to my house she is sooo happy.
My aunt treats my grandma like a servant. She never tells her son to do anything to help out. My grandma is always crying because my aunt tells her off all the time. My grandma came to stay with me last week and she is still at mine. Earlier, I was in my room trying to nap but my aunt rang and then I overheard my grandma crying to my other aunt about what my horrible aunt said. Apparently my grandma left out some socks to dry before she came to mine last week and they fell onto the grass below. So apparently, next time my grandma goes anywhere she, according to my aunt, "had better finish all your work". FFS, why doesn't she just hire a servant????!! She talks to my grandma as though she is worthless! I am so angry and I'm crying as I'm typing this because it wasn't just a one off. This always happens. My aunt is always telling my grandma off for things that she has done wrong, which according to my aunt is that she isn't looking after the flat properly. Like wtf that's not my grandma's freaking job!
When my grandma was on the phone to my other aunt earlier crying she was saying something like "how can a daughter speak to her mother like that?" and how can she? My grandma has never done anything to my horrible aunt to deserve being treated like a maid. My aunt is just such a cow. My grandma is going back to my aunt's flat again next week and is only allowed to come back to mine on the condition that she brings that f***ing dog with her. So my grandma will only be allowed to leave the flat and stay at mine, where by the way, I have my aunt's cat which she has dumped on me because.. I don't even know why, if she brings the dog with her because you know, looking after a dog would be so damn hard for a 16 year old.
Sorry for the massively long rant but I just can not comprehend how a daughter can be so damn horrible to her mother, who has done nothing wrong, nothing. I asked my mum if my aunt was abused or anything as a child my mum said no, she's just always been a mean person. ARGGGGGGGGHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHh I feel like calling social services or something! I'm so angry!
Sorry again for the long rant
Which would be fine except my 73 year old grandma, who is probably the tiniest, most frail person you might meet, has to do all the work and look after a yorkshire terrier, who is the most untrained, most annoying dog who barks all day and they have had so many complaints about. My grandma obviously can't take this hyperactive dog out for walks and my cousin obviously can't lift his legs up to do it so the dog ends up peeing and doing his business in the flat that my grandma has to pick up and clean. My grandma also does all the house work without any help whatsoever from my cousin because he is just so damn lazy. My grandma is always so sick when she's there. Whenever she comes to my house she is sooo happy.
My aunt treats my grandma like a servant. She never tells her son to do anything to help out. My grandma is always crying because my aunt tells her off all the time. My grandma came to stay with me last week and she is still at mine. Earlier, I was in my room trying to nap but my aunt rang and then I overheard my grandma crying to my other aunt about what my horrible aunt said. Apparently my grandma left out some socks to dry before she came to mine last week and they fell onto the grass below. So apparently, next time my grandma goes anywhere she, according to my aunt, "had better finish all your work". FFS, why doesn't she just hire a servant????!! She talks to my grandma as though she is worthless! I am so angry and I'm crying as I'm typing this because it wasn't just a one off. This always happens. My aunt is always telling my grandma off for things that she has done wrong, which according to my aunt is that she isn't looking after the flat properly. Like wtf that's not my grandma's freaking job!
When my grandma was on the phone to my other aunt earlier crying she was saying something like "how can a daughter speak to her mother like that?" and how can she? My grandma has never done anything to my horrible aunt to deserve being treated like a maid. My aunt is just such a cow. My grandma is going back to my aunt's flat again next week and is only allowed to come back to mine on the condition that she brings that f***ing dog with her. So my grandma will only be allowed to leave the flat and stay at mine, where by the way, I have my aunt's cat which she has dumped on me because.. I don't even know why, if she brings the dog with her because you know, looking after a dog would be so damn hard for a 16 year old.
Sorry for the massively long rant but I just can not comprehend how a daughter can be so damn horrible to her mother, who has done nothing wrong, nothing. I asked my mum if my aunt was abused or anything as a child my mum said no, she's just always been a mean person. ARGGGGGGGGHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHh I feel like calling social services or something! I'm so angry!
Sorry again for the long rant
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good luck!
http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/health/3639421.stm
http://www.mccormicks-solicitors.com/articles/get_pdf_data.php?id=56
I dont really have any advice, but im glad your parents are going to take her with them.
I feel so sorry for your nana. She must be so vulnerable.
elderly abuse is just as bad as domestic abuse or child abuse.