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mates or lovers?
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Hi all i'm new here and have a big problem, any help appriciated. i have bn with my husband for 6years and it's now at the point where i just don't fancy him anymore. it's bn like this for about a year. we do have sex sometimes but i think of men i do find attractive. we had had other problems that we have always worked through but this one seams to be going on and on. i think of him as more of a mate than a lover! and if i'm being honest that sexual chemistry as never really bn there like it has with other men in the past. i hate that i feel this why as the guilt is overwhelming but it's now at the point where i know i will end up cheating on him as everywhere i go i'm looking at men! the problem is i am a attractive young women and do get attention. please help if anyone has been in the same situation or not any advice welcome!
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Also think about it from him side. Personally I'd hate to be in a relationship where my partner didn't fancy me and was always looking at other people (not blaming you for that btw) especially as you say that you might cheat. Wouldn't it be much less hurtful all round to end your marraige before you sleep with anyone else? You have unfinished business to sort out which should be done before you go off with anyone else - sorry, my fella was in this situation and I've seen how hurtful it can be.
So my advise would be see if you can give things a go in your relationship because if you still like him and you've been together that long it's got to be worth a shot. If you find it's not working, please please finish it before you cheat, cause that won't help anyone. Best of luck