First time gay experience... I might be bi

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I recently posted a message saying that I have admitted to myself that Iam gay. Last Friday I was out clubbing with my mates when I was approached by this man from Botswana. He could instantly tell that I was gay, and invited me back to his flat to smoke weed. However, when I got there I realised he just wanted me for my body. Reluctantly I decided that I should shag him, as I was drunk and attracted to him. But the morning after I was disgusted with myself, especially when I saw some dried semen on my chest. I am now having second thoughts about being gay. What was it like your first time? Did you have any regrets?

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Doesnt sound like youve come to terms with it then.

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I can't really answer this all that well I'm afraid. Out of interest were you disgusted with yourself for drunkenly having sex? .... or drunkenly having sex with a man?

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Allow me to offfer my perspective:

Reluctantly I decided that I should shag him, as I was drunk and attracted to him. But the morning after I was disgusted with myself, especially when I saw some dried semen on my chest. I am now having second thoughts about being gay. What was it like your first time? Did you have any regrets?

Maybe you were disgusted with yourself because you really didn't wanna have sex with this guy?

I use to have a good link to a site but it's gone now, but basically it's about not labelling yourself. I consider someone's sexuality just another part about them, like their hair color(oops sorry, colour <IMG SRC="biggrin.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">)and not specifically who they are. anyways just be honest with yourself about who/what you find attractive and you'll be happy, right?

Just be glad you live in a country where gay sex isn't outlawed <IMG SRC="frown.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"> <--Sorry just feel like venting a little
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I'm abit ignorant about the gay scene, but i would have thought you would have get to know a gay person,firstly as a friends say, having a drink at the pub,before rushing into full blown sex. I dont know - perhaps I'm wrong!

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Originally posted by pedro:
<STRONG>I'm abit ignorant about the gay scene, but i would have thought you would have get to know a gay person,firstly as a friends say, having a drink at the pub,before rushing into full blown sex. I dont know - perhaps I'm wrong!</STRONG>

You are wrong..This is the UK...You can get a shag within 30 mins in any largeish town whether you are gay or straight.

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You can? I know women can but blokes I am not so sure, unless they are going to pay for it!

To Stuey, maybe it was just that bloke? I mean, I am straight but I have got off with blokes and then felt disgusted afterwards just cos they were creepy or gross.

Hope you get your head together <IMG SRC="smile.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">

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Originally posted by PussyKatty:
<STRONG>You can? I know women can but blokes I am not so sure, unless they are going to pay for it!</STRONG>

Unfortunately, im sure.

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Talking from experience? I surely don't know any people (female) that would sleep with someone in 30 minutes. I mean, us classy birds wait at least an hour <IMG SRC="smile.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">

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I agree with pussy katty on this one. I have had experiences where i have had regrets becuase of the person not because of what i have done. in the end it is your choice. maybe ou shoudl get to know somebody better first?

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I think pussy katty is right on this one...
however coming to terms with your sexuality and getting used to all the emotional baggage that comes with it does take time. Don't rush into getting experience for the sake of it and make sure you feel ready and comfortable with what you do.

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