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why do boys do it?
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why is it that whenever boys get stressed about something, they distance themselves?
my boyfriend has 4 tough exams this week and i've hardly seen him/spoken to him unless i make the effort first, and when i do call he doesn't say much and sounds really miserable. i wouldn't mind but i have exams too, and i need a bit of love too!
it's like he's focusing solely on his exams, and forgotten all about me.
am i being selfish?
:chin:
my boyfriend has 4 tough exams this week and i've hardly seen him/spoken to him unless i make the effort first, and when i do call he doesn't say much and sounds really miserable. i wouldn't mind but i have exams too, and i need a bit of love too!
it's like he's focusing solely on his exams, and forgotten all about me.
am i being selfish?
:chin:
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Hun i wish i knew the answer two of my exes have done it now. i just dont think lads like to talk about problems or things they are stressed about its just not a male thing
this is nearly as bad as the thread with the girl worrying about her boyfriend not having called her by 12 when he said he'd phone at 11.
:yes: I agree, he has exams. It doesnt mean he loves you any less just because he is focusing on his exams. Just chill out and let him get thru his exams.
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and I am thoroughly ashamed of myself :P
Clamming up is what most men do. You need to get used to it. Once he has his issues sorted out, he will be back to normal so just give him space and understanding.
Have a read of "Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus". Its a very useful guide to successful communication between the sexes and explains why members of the opposite sex behave the way they do.
:yes: I don't actually 'get' the problem here.