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How did you introduce your bf/gf to the parents
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any ideas on how i can introduce the bf to my mum, once my mum knows the rest of the family will know in know time lol.
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I think my mam suspects I've got a girlfriend, cause every fucking phone call she asks and I've stopped denying it and I'm blatantly changing the subject and she just knows.
She's coming up the weekend after my brother graduates, so that'll be a good time I reckon. He's having a big meal in Aberdeen so the attention won't all be on her, so maybe that's the best time y'know? It's quite embarassing just thinking about it
Maybe just mention him in conversation now and again, then bring him home one night before you go out or something. Doesn't have to be a big formal "lets meet your boyfriend" thing if you don't want it to be.
Nope she doesn know, she keeps asking but i just change the subject, i think i might try bringing him round before we go out making sure she knows we are going out if not she will be questioning for hours LOL its just how exactly would i mention him if you get what i mean
Just mention his name in conversation e.g "Oh I'm going out with Ben tonight" and then change the subject onto something else really quickly. There's probably more mature ways to do it though, but I've always been embarrased about things like this.
Mums are really good at detecting things like this though, they don't always need things spelt out to them. It is really embarrasing though, eh? I can feel myself going red just thinking about the first conversation about it
I think they met the other guy I was dating before him, but he lived with my brother at uni and we did visit quite a bit.
And mums always know when your dating/fancy someone. Mine manages to guess nearly every time.
He's already met my grandparents and sister and her girlfriend, but somehow I've managed to get out of the parent intro 'til now!
I had suggested a meal out - they are currently on holiday so we were going to go out as a "welcome home" meal, but mum said that's too scary for him (he's a fireman for God sake - he doesn't do scary!) so I've just got to invite him in for a cuppa sometime soon. Might just let him be here when they get home in the middle of the night!
I'm like that too, my Mam actually said to me on the phone the other night that she can tell I'm happier.
I just get so embarrased though.
I'm fairly sure I mentioned I was gay before that...
:thumb:
Because my folks live in Bordeaux, they haven't had a chance to meet him yet but he's coming out for a week's holiday with me in a couple of weeks time. It is kind of throwing them all in at the deep end, but the way I look at it, they're all wonderful people and I love them all, so why shouldn't they get on?!
I've never really understood why people make it into such a big deal. You don't panic when you introduce your best friends to your parents, and my boyfriend is by default one of my best friends.... we just happen to screw each other silly on a regular basis! :thumb:
She's only met one other guy I've been with and that time she showed really crazy motherly intuition...she picked me up from my friend's house after the party when we got together and the first thing she said was "so who's the new boyfriend then?".
Mothers are terrifyingly good at that kind of thing.
I didn't really introduce him. He left his wallet at mine and I was at my Mum's so he came to pick it up, and she invited him in for a cup of tea. Don't think I would like to have a formal introduction! Haven't met his parents as they live miles away.
You've never been round her house after almost a year? That's a little strange. Does she get on with her parents? Don't they want to meet you?
Because mums know these things. Plus they tend to recognise the same traits you display every time you get into a relationship.
I met his parents on our 3rd or so date, which although was scary, I didnt know it was going to happen so I couldnt get stressed.
I told my dad on the phone, as I was at uni and said I wanted him to meet someone. That was it.
Ok, personally, I don't live at home and I am not that close to my family. So I am not really bothered about introducing boyfriends to my family. I was with one guy for 3 years and he only met my Mum once, and that was after we'd been together about 2 years. He never met my Dad.
But if she actually lives at home, that's different. There doesn't need to be a need for you to go round..don't you ever drop her off/pick her up from her house? Just drop in and say hello.
It could be a bit intimidating to meet them all at once, at a wedding so maybe say hello first.
haha nice.
She said -what have you been up to?. I mentioned Id gone out on friday with Dave. BIG PAUSE.
- Yeah, were trying again.
- About 2 months.
- No, we never really fell out, we just were heading different ways.
- Yes, he wants to move.
Mother: I find it so hard to keep up with you these days...
:chin: We've been together 2 years. I have only had a couple of boyfriends before that, that she'd known about anyway. If only she knew the rest, then she would be confused! :angel:
I didn't meet his parents for about another year, as they were going through a messy separation and he wanted to save me the awkwardness and frostiness of the house atmosphere...
My GF's mum is meeting my parents for the first time in a few weeks. They don't speak a common language. So there will be a fair bit of translating to keep away the awkward silences. But at least this will lessen the impact of the "old embarrassing stories from long long ago" suddenly being shared.