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rather than giving out the whole long story and boring you to death i'll put it into a very short sentence:
I NEED CLOSURE!
I had a very big bust up with a mate and we tried to patch it up, whcih seemed to work and then she stopped taking my calls...
theres a lot of unfinished buisness there and i really feel like i need to ask her why she did that, but i can't get hold of her. I'm not really sure if i want to make up with her and become all hunky dory again, because she seriously betrayed my trust and our friendship, but i just want to know why...
how do i go about doing this, or how do i go about dropping it altogether, though it's difficult to drop and forget a friendship that you have had for years....
thanks
I NEED CLOSURE!
I had a very big bust up with a mate and we tried to patch it up, whcih seemed to work and then she stopped taking my calls...
theres a lot of unfinished buisness there and i really feel like i need to ask her why she did that, but i can't get hold of her. I'm not really sure if i want to make up with her and become all hunky dory again, because she seriously betrayed my trust and our friendship, but i just want to know why...
how do i go about doing this, or how do i go about dropping it altogether, though it's difficult to drop and forget a friendship that you have had for years....
thanks
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However I am in a similar situation. I had quite a bad break up lately (we hadonly been together a couple of weeks - but were mates bfor this). And basically he dumped me for apparently tellin EVERYONE that we were together (i only told a couple of really close mates) but it musta got out somehow (as we used to date a couple of years bfor this) and he found out id told EVERYONE i know at college. He wanted to keep the whole thing quiet so his ex (who he was still in love with btw) didnt find out. So he dumped me and now ive realised that actually he is the idiot and i did nothing wrong, and i SO want to have a go at him saying how all this was his fault and that he is a ****. But also dont know how to go about it. lol....rant over
i say forget em. no one like that is worth it. and it's times like these that you find out who your REAL friends are.
Just be honest, say what you think, how you feel about the situation
Mention you want some sort of closure, want to know where you stand.
If you get no response, just forget it and move on.
Just dont try to drag it on if its blatently not going to work. Just hassle and stress that wont benefit anyone.
It is difficult, but change happens, just gota deal with it.
I don't know about you, but if I've had an argument with a friend of mine, I always find it much better to have a break from them for a bit because if we don't have a break, then all we'll do is argue. (again)
I've had nothing but a "oh she doesn't want to talk to you" from a friend than answered her phone...
why the fuck am i feeling like this?
i need to learn not to hold grudges
:yes:
But you shouldn't feel bad that you will be at the same parties etc.. You have just as much right to be there, who knows it might be the perfect opportunity to sort things out once you have had a couple of drinks.
I know whenever my flat mate and I fell out. We would just go and get pissed, and forget all about it.
ok...well, i need my mind to stop running the whole thing through my head again...
Funny though that several of the girls who replied had problems with their best mates cos of boys! It seems the prudent advice would be to put friends first. But either way;
if they don't want to talk then sod them, there are plenty of other people out there who'd love to be your friend and you shouldn't have to chase one person because they're having a tantrum. Give it a few weeks and it will have blown over and they'll realise they were the ones being dumb.
If you don't think you can stop yourself from being violent then you should try and avoid this person. If you violent toward them, you will loose the moral highground.
I don't know the in's and out's of what happened but maybe take some time out from eachother. When you have calmed down and do not see yourself being violent to this person then maybe you can work at building your friendship again.
lets just hope they get a good dose of karma
You have to understand that he has problems though and you having a go at him will just make things worse.
TT - if you think you're going to get violent, then stay away from them for a while.
i don't think i'd actually get violent but i'd be a little angry...yes...but i'm letting go, it's all i can do....