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Would Anyone Else Find This Weird?
BillieTheBot
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Got a PM yesterday from someone on a message board I post on. I've probably spoken to this guy a few times. He asked if I had MSN and he would like to get to know me better, but told me not to think he was a weirdo or anything like that.
Anyway, I addded him and we got talking. He then said 'I don't want you to get the wrong idea but I only asked you because you come across as sad and lonely. I added you because I get like that sometimes and thought we could be friends.'
Anyone else think this is weird? I admit I've PM'd people I've probably spoken to (and met) once or twice, but that's purely because I want to get to know them better and not because I feel sorry for them.
Anyway, I addded him and we got talking. He then said 'I don't want you to get the wrong idea but I only asked you because you come across as sad and lonely. I added you because I get like that sometimes and thought we could be friends.'
Anyone else think this is weird? I admit I've PM'd people I've probably spoken to (and met) once or twice, but that's purely because I want to get to know them better and not because I feel sorry for them.
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Depends really, do you come across as someone who is sad and lonely on that board? If so, then he's being sincere. If not, then maybe it is a bit weird...either way, I wouldn't blame him on anything malicious.
then it's a tad weird, but whether it's malicious is up to you to decide but it doesn't sound like it to me. Could they be sad and lonely themselves and projecting on you, maybe?
I think I'd be offended too. Might take pity on the poor boy though, if he's looking to make real friends over the internet then his social life clearly is not a healthy one. Saying that, I'd probably keep it to pm'ing over the forum rather than giving out personal details. I used to use a guitar forum and had loads of weird blokes adding me, purely because I was one of the only girls on there and talking to a girl over the internet was the closest most of them were ever gonna get to the real thing!
It seems to me that this guy lacks tact and this doesn't strike me on the surface as a great way to initiate a friendship at all. I would definitely say there is some projection going on. But some people do just lack tact (and as otter says there are the usual internet limitations) and often it's worth giving people the benefit of the doubt. I don't think it would be unreasonable to politely say something like "I feel slightly bemused by your message" to give him a chance to explain further. If it all just feels too weird then you wouldn't be in the wrong for ignoring it.
Same ! I hope i dont come across as sad and lonely
I don't think you do at all sofie .. i think you seem wise but not sad
I was slightly offended but just said 'um, ok', which he was rather surprised about as I didn't react that much or something. (my excuse was that I was talking to someone else)
Which is what I thought.
I can't see anything particularly wrong here. I think he could have phrased that a little more tactfully, but what's done is done. Just give things a try. You'll soon work out if there's more to him.