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Is she too young for me?
BillieTheBot
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This thread is about a developing situation at the moment.
Most of the guys that I work with are taken. One evening, a group of us were getting rather drunk in the bar, (the hangover the next day was horrendous, incidentally) and they were all talking about their girlfriends. Not in any crude way, though some of the banter was slightly sexual. One of the guys asked me about my girlfriend. I'm a single man, so I told them that. A group of them said "don't worry, Danny, we're going to find you a girlfriend.". It's one of few parts of the night I can remember. I assumed they were joking, of course, that it was the drink talking.
Not so. They've taken it literally. They've looked around the park for eligible young women, and have found someone that they claim would be a very good match for me. Now, I've known the girl in question for two years now, ever since I started working at the park. She's a wonderful woman who's been through far too much in her short life. It's safe to say I've got to like her during that time. However, before all this came about, I'd never thought of her as anything other than a friend. Apparently, she's quite keen on being more than mates with me.
I normally would be as well. Except just one potential problem. She's only 17. When I raise this with the guys, they say "it's not a problem at all". And indeed, on one level, I'm inclined to agree. Last year, my (now ex) girlfriend was 18 and I was 21, and it worked pretty well. But now there's a five-year age gap.
Is that too much at this young age? What are your opinions?
Most of the guys that I work with are taken. One evening, a group of us were getting rather drunk in the bar, (the hangover the next day was horrendous, incidentally) and they were all talking about their girlfriends. Not in any crude way, though some of the banter was slightly sexual. One of the guys asked me about my girlfriend. I'm a single man, so I told them that. A group of them said "don't worry, Danny, we're going to find you a girlfriend.". It's one of few parts of the night I can remember. I assumed they were joking, of course, that it was the drink talking.
Not so. They've taken it literally. They've looked around the park for eligible young women, and have found someone that they claim would be a very good match for me. Now, I've known the girl in question for two years now, ever since I started working at the park. She's a wonderful woman who's been through far too much in her short life. It's safe to say I've got to like her during that time. However, before all this came about, I'd never thought of her as anything other than a friend. Apparently, she's quite keen on being more than mates with me.
I normally would be as well. Except just one potential problem. She's only 17. When I raise this with the guys, they say "it's not a problem at all". And indeed, on one level, I'm inclined to agree. Last year, my (now ex) girlfriend was 18 and I was 21, and it worked pretty well. But now there's a five-year age gap.
Is that too much at this young age? What are your opinions?
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ETA: This just reminded me of family guys take on chat shows..
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=raImnLI0KCo
That is really fucking scary.
I don't think she's too young
Christ at 16 I'd moved out of my mum's and was living with my 30yr old bf....but that's a whole new different story!
I used to go out with a girl about 4 years ago who was 17/18 when I was 22. It caused a lot of problems as we wanted different things....as long as you want the same things, it'll be fine, but what you have to realise is that she may want to get into anything too serious as she's only young.....make sure you make things clear as to what you want out of this relationship.
Have fun and good luck.
When I was 17 I was seeing a 24 year old... we got on fantastically!
My husband is 13 years older than me and we started seeing each other when I was 18... that was an interesting one actually... he asked me out for dinner and over our meal we started talking about ages - we had known each other about 4 months as he was/is my Kung Fu Instructor
We tried to guess each others ages;
I reckoned he was about 27 and he thought I was about 22 - turned out I was 18 and he was 31... the age gap jumped from 5 years to 13 in the blink of an eye
The age gap only becomes a problem if you let it...
Good luck and let us know how you get on!!!
It sounds like you know you'd get on well but you're just worried about what people will think of the age difference; at the end of the day, 5 years isn't much and if she's been through a lot then she's likely to be quite mature anyway. Give it a go; it might be well worth it!
see how it goes take it easy for bit read of her reactions
gd luck
Exactly the same as me. Because his personality is younger than his years, and mine is older, we work absolutely fine. No-one has an issue about it, it gets the occaisional joke about in the pub but no-one takes it seriously as we're so happy together
:yes:
I think age gap is only an issue if you make it out to be one.
Obviously that's in general, and not all girls that age are immature. Ultimately, give it a go. If you like someone, never ever stop yourself from going out with someone without at least giving it a try.
28 years :eek:
Lol yeah, that's a bit too much of an age gap for me...although I suppose it's not doing anyone any harm.
Lol each to their own. I had a slight crush on someone 19 years older than me recently
Beat that bitches.
They weren't talking IQ's
Rinsed lol.
110 is still pretty dumb though!!