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Partner too good looking for you?
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He wouldn't be with you if he didn't want to be.
Just fuggedabowdit.
Now, don't make me yell at you!
Exactly...
Plus everyone has a different opinion on attractiveness... you think these girls in the photos are really good looking, he might find you far more attractive. Its all subjective.
altho bit rich coming from me because i have been prone to my paranoid spells.
i wouldnt voice your concerns to him though because my ex said to me in a drunken moment why are you going out with me u could do so much better which a) wasnt true because i was a bitch HE could have done better and b) put me off him a little because he came across whiney and not as confident as i first thought
Very good point! To be honest- and not wanting to sound up myself because I'm not a cocky person- no, I have never felt that my partner is too good looking/too well dressed to be with me. But yeah, so I keep being told, a lack of confidence is not sexy or particularly attractive, so perhaps don't mention it too much? As someone else said, he wouldnt be with you if he didn't want to be. Chill, honey
Which is why I think it's important to share any insecurities, before they become so big that the actual relationship is affected.
If you're in a serious relationship it's not wise to pretend and hide behind fake confidence when in fact a little bit of reassurance can make all the difference
Obviously this is only in the case of an actual relationship, you don't want to hit someone you've known for three days with it
I usually find that my opinion of what's attractive is completely different to my female friends opinion. Similarly, I'm often confused when an apparently "gorgeous" guy walks into a room, and just looks like a normal bloke to me. Maybe boys and girls look at different things when determining how attractive someone is?
bad idea
if i am feeling fat or minging then the last thing id want to do is tell people because the minute you open up your mouth it will draw attention to your insecurities.
for example me and a few mates were getting ready to go out and everybody looked lovely and it was going fine until one of them said ohmygod my thighs are so fat ! the minute someone says that even though your reassuring them your still gonna look at their thighs and they're still gonna look bigger after shes said something (unless annorexic).
thought i was the only one wondering...
:razz:
Totally agree, especially since mine is like a super genius, I always wonder why is he with someone not as smart.
But then I'm taller than him by like 4 inches, so he has his complexes too.
cheeky sod :razz:
Yeah, we've all seen you now budda! You have a full head of hair.
See, that's why I don't want to say anything to my bloke, I don't want to give him a big head
im not the most confident person anyway but being with him really made me worse! i never told him what i was feeling because i didnt wanna put him off and make him think i was a freak but in teh end he knew something was kind of wrong. he was like 'dont be stupid! you're beautiful thats why im with you...'. it tailed off in the end anyway cos we realised we were better off as just friends but yeah. i felt like i couldnt be myself with him but i think if we'd have been together longer my fears would have gone away a bit.
this is a ramble isnt it.
I didnt feel that way when we first got together, but im over 2 stone heavier now
I know, its impressive I havent even a bald spot at my time of life!
What is your true age?
x2
you can't keep acting like a granda now that we've saw your pic
haha, i agree!
no way haha
Without getting anecdotal, often we think that somebody is above us in some way or that we aren't worthy, but it is also so very possible that they feel the same way.
If somebody is with you, or even just likes you it is because they see some sort of beauty within you. You should cherish that and feel glad for that and celebrate your togetherness because nothing sucks more than pushing somebody away because you think they're in a league above you.