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Ok, i have a bit of a dilema here. My brother, who is 18, has mates (obviously) There is one called Mike i have liked for quite awhile, cos hes really cute and a really nice person aswell, however he has a girlfriend who he's been going out with for 1 and 1/2 years. Last night we were texting each-other just with silly messages, cos we do that often, and it suddenly got serious. We were talking about willies and boobies (don't ask!) and it got onto the topic of willy sucking, and he said "but i spose you'd know all about that wouldn't you?" and i replied with "well actually...no!" so he asked why not, and i said because i don't know how! So he said (this is getting silly - he siad, she said!) ok, so he said Do you want me to tel you how? and i agreed, cos i'd quite like to know! (and now i do!)
So he started telling me how you give a blowjob ect, and that was all fine, then he suddenly said "If you ever need a test pilot you know where i am <IMG SRC="wink.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"> " This took me by suprise, so i replied with Are you being serious? And he sent back a message saying "well, sort of. At the end of the day you're my mates sister and you have exams and stuff to do and you have to respect that i have a girlfriend" in so many words! The thought hadn't even crossed my mind of trying to get with him, but i just don't know what to do! He was basically saying "You can practice your blowjob skills on me!" I really like him and have fancied the pants off him for ages, but he has a girlfriend! I don't know what to do! <IMG SRC="confused.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"> <IMG SRC="confused.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"> <IMG SRC="confused.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"> !!!!
HELP ME!!! Thanks!
Edited part:
Ok, well some people have said no - don't do it (kinda my feeling) but some people have also said go for it! He does not seem like the type to cheat on his girlfriend, but he has also been sending me text messages since our little conversation the other night. I would never want to hurt his girlfriend - not in a million years. And if Tom (brother) ever found out then he'd go mental and would probably dump Mike as a friend. However i don't think they'd be able to stay apart for long! My parents would not think very highly of me. He would respect me, and he does have feelings for me cos i've known him for quite a few years now and we have become good friends, what i didn't realise was that his feelings were quite as strong as they are. <IMG SRC="eek.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
The thing is, i feel quite bad because i am playing along with his text messages and stuff, cos i just don't know what to do about the whole situation. It could very easily get out of hand and i would be able to realise that and just put a stop to it all - and Mike would, but it might ruin our friendship. <IMG SRC="frown.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
Recently we have become a lot closer cos he's round our house nearly all the time, cos him and Tom have become very good mates.
I'm still confuzzled! <IMG SRC="confused.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
[ 26-05-2002: Message edited by: Shiggi ]
So he started telling me how you give a blowjob ect, and that was all fine, then he suddenly said "If you ever need a test pilot you know where i am <IMG SRC="wink.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"> " This took me by suprise, so i replied with Are you being serious? And he sent back a message saying "well, sort of. At the end of the day you're my mates sister and you have exams and stuff to do and you have to respect that i have a girlfriend" in so many words! The thought hadn't even crossed my mind of trying to get with him, but i just don't know what to do! He was basically saying "You can practice your blowjob skills on me!" I really like him and have fancied the pants off him for ages, but he has a girlfriend! I don't know what to do! <IMG SRC="confused.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"> <IMG SRC="confused.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"> <IMG SRC="confused.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"> !!!!
HELP ME!!! Thanks!
Edited part:
Ok, well some people have said no - don't do it (kinda my feeling) but some people have also said go for it! He does not seem like the type to cheat on his girlfriend, but he has also been sending me text messages since our little conversation the other night. I would never want to hurt his girlfriend - not in a million years. And if Tom (brother) ever found out then he'd go mental and would probably dump Mike as a friend. However i don't think they'd be able to stay apart for long! My parents would not think very highly of me. He would respect me, and he does have feelings for me cos i've known him for quite a few years now and we have become good friends, what i didn't realise was that his feelings were quite as strong as they are. <IMG SRC="eek.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
The thing is, i feel quite bad because i am playing along with his text messages and stuff, cos i just don't know what to do about the whole situation. It could very easily get out of hand and i would be able to realise that and just put a stop to it all - and Mike would, but it might ruin our friendship. <IMG SRC="frown.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
Recently we have become a lot closer cos he's round our house nearly all the time, cos him and Tom have become very good mates.
I'm still confuzzled! <IMG SRC="confused.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
[ 26-05-2002: Message edited by: Shiggi ]
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Ok perhaps ive gone a bit stressed here.....but *sigh* nvr mind.
It kind of sounds like he wants a free blowjob. I don't think that he really cares about you otherwise he wouldn't have brought up the stuff about him having a girlfriend. Meaning he wants it to be a secret between the two of you so that he can stay with her. Bringing up the point about being your brothers mate also leads me to believe that he doesn't want anyone else to know.
Of course, who knows, maybe he'll leave her for you, but I don't think its likely.
Hope that helped.
This should be in Sex.
One, don't do it.
Two, what he said.^^^
From what you've said it just sounds like he was messing about.
But what do I know? <IMG SRC="tongue.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"> <IMG SRC="biggrin.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
Oh yeah, he is so serious about her that he is prepared to risk his relationship for a blow job from his mates little sister!
He shouldn't be texting you anyway! I say you tell your brother and show him the messages!
But will he respect you? No.
Would it make you at least seem like an easy lay, a bit of a tart? Hell yes. You can bet he'd tell everyone too.
[edited to add:]
Oh, and if anyone isn't sure that most men would happily go for a free, no-strings-blowjob, well, you know where I am if you need a test-pilot <IMG SRC="biggrin.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
[ 24-05-2002: Message edited by: Black_Knight ]
Lol, i thought you had a Girlfriend?!?
Yeah who could say No to a free BJ from a 15 year old school girl who doesn't know that giving out free sex or bj will not do her any Favours in the Future ! Still its your call
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Edited because i made a silly mistake!
[ 24-05-2002: Message edited by: Harmless ]
I was Joking, I wouldn't use her for a free BJ not because she only 15 but becasue she seem so unsure, I am a full red bloody 18 year old i'll have you know who happens to think about sex alot!!
Don't do it Shiggi
Plus what else am i going to do till 9-5?...WORK!! don't make me laugh
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No. You simply say no. Easy.
[ 25-05-2002: Message edited by: Loopi ]
Thanks for everyones help and i'll keep you updated on what happens tonight. <IMG SRC="smile.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
Well he doesnt seem too bothered about respecting her! Forget about this peice of shit
He does care about her, he's just on the verge of break up with her.
I always find it funny how men are always "on the verge of break up" or their girlfriend has never understood them, or how things havnt been going well for some time, when there is the prospect of sex with someone else on offer. Its the classic gutless man chat up line if you must, something men say to make you think they are serious about you. Its like that when men have affairs when they are married - they are always "on the verge" of telling their wife. But they never do. Thats because they like having their cake and eating it. Sex with two girls? Yes thanks.
You can bet your life once hes got what he wants from you things will suddenly be ok with his girlfriend, and you will have been his little bit of shag on the side. Nothing more.
Gud luck anyway, hope it goes better than it did for me. <IMG SRC="smile.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
This time it is true! Him and his girlfriend have been like this for awhile, everyone's noticed. We were talking about it before all this text thing started.
And as for NellyLuva2 thakns for telling me that, however i think this guy may be different. I doubt i'll do anything with him though, just cos he's a mate and i'd like to keep it that way.