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Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
Do you have a best friend or just lots of mates?

I have a lot of really good mates but i do have a best mate i can always always rely on i also have my sister and though she does my head in and we argue CONSTANTLY over everything from her dumbass boyfriend to whether i have stolen her shoes or not .. i still look out for her .

I've always been the sort of girl who has one best friend then lots of other friends, half are probably boys .. I just think getting along with boys is easier but then when one of you fancys each other things get REAL awkward then the friendship is ruined :(

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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I have few people I would call close friends, a few more friends on here that I only speak to/see every now and again but there still great people. And a few from other places that I only see every now and again but most of the time the friendshipo always been like that.

    I dont have "best" friend unless I can count my brother because he is the dogs.

    The mix of boys to girls os about 6%/34%. I just get on better with guys then girls, but I do have a couple of really good female friends.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I know a few guys who regard me as their best friend/among their best friends and they are pretty good pals of me too. I know some of them for about 14 years now (one since elementary school and then parted ways, we just kept contact). I can confide in them and trust them blindly.

    I indentified myself always more through my friends instead of family so they mean a lot to me and a fight with a friend can bring me massively down.

    I have a lot of mates too, who I am just going out to drink or chat, or sometimes talk about personal things, but usually just superficial like stress with girl-/boyfriend or something. They are there to have fun and don't share a lot of serious time (except of course the occasional meet to study etc.)

    Usually I get better on with boys. I had girls as friends too, but only very little were 100% trustworthy and they often lie when they don't want to meet up or something, instead of telling me the truth that they just do not want, and that's something I so so so dislike. Generally I think boys are better friendship material, there will always be quarrel and the such with gals, imho.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Ummm, dont have any 'best friends', but more than 5 that I could tell anything too, and they would help me out. Im really lucky with that. And about 60/40 boy/girl ratio. It used to be less girls, but since I came out, i feel a little more comfortable around girls (which might seem wierd), but yeh. I like having friends I do :)
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I have 2 best friends that I would trust with my life, can tell anything to, who will do anything for me any time of day or night etc. I then have loads of very close friends who I can talk to about most things, but just wouldn't feel right phoning them at 3 in the morning for advice or help. Then there's another group who are just there for nights out and general socialising.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I've drinking buddies, a couple of girls I see every so often that I can confide in, and a couple of girls who aren't here but I'm close to and I'd fuck.

    Apart from the Champions League, a boy doesn't need much more than that :thumb:
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I reckon I have about 5 or 6 people I would consider my best friends, people who I can talk to and confide in.

    Then I'd have another 20 or so people I call friends who I text, call but not that close.

    After that, there's just people I know and have the craic with when out but wouldn't ring them or text them to see the gossip.

    Saying that, if they walked past me in the street I'd stop and talk. I love talking to people!
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I have a very close friend who I have been through a lot with but I am not sure if I would call her a best friend as there is a lot of 'one way traffic' - she is quite needy and I am always there to support her, but I would rather do that than lose her...

    Apart from that we have a couple who we are very close to, they are our best mates in many senses of the words... we spend loads of time together, go away together etc but nothing as of yet has ever come up when we have needed help - I would like to think they would do everything they could to help us though.

    We also have quite a tight nit group of friends with whom my husband grew up with... I know that if we were ever in trouble they would rally round to help us through it - that's a nice feeling :)
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I have several groups of friends I can spend time with from my past, but I overall have my boyfriend, and my two best mates who I love more than any others on this earth. Me and my two best mates are ridiculously close, and always in contact - already spoke to them both today. We were all quite dependant on each other admittedly, but thats mainly because we've all been through a bit of shit recently.

    My boyfriend is also a best mate, we do all sorts of stupid stuff together, and love every moment, and tbh, now his friends have met my friends, we've built up a nice little group and I totally love it.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I have 2 different, smallish groups of close friends (about 4 in each group). Then I have loads of other larger groups of semi-friends. lol
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I have 2 best friends, one is my mate from college (we were inseperable back then) but I don't see her very often. We speak on the phone tho, not a great deal, but when we do its great and we will always be close regardless of not getting to see eachother that much. Its been about a year since I have seen her!!

    My other best mate is my bf. He is like the other half of me, we get on great and I can talk (and argue) anything to him. He's a great support as well.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Hmm, I don't have one best friend as such, but I guess there are 7 or 8 people who I'm close to and would share a lot with. I have quite a random variety of friends, I guess that comes from still keeping in touch with people from schiool, uni etc.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I prefer to have a few really good friends who I can truly trust, and then a load of others who are more casual friends. I only really confide in people I know I can trust.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I have 1 best friend who is like a constant friend. Just moved out so meeting loads of new people - not aorund the same friends
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I'd say I've got four friends who I would consider my best friends, all from different groups though. They're all the type of people where I could be locked in an empty room together for 24 hours and not get bored and could talk to about anything. Two boys and two girls as well - nice, healthy balance then. Then I've got quite a lot of pretty good friends too.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    They're all the type of people where I could be locked in an empty room together for 24 hours and not get bored and could talk to about anything.

    Ha yeah we had this discussion the other day, if you were trapped down a well for 48 hours, who could you put up with having in there with you. All 3 of us obviously decided on each other, but then me and my other mate decided we were unsure on the other one, because after half an hour she'd get hungry and go all cannibal on us. :D
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I absolutely have a best mate, the gorgeous and superfantastic Helen, who moved back to the other side of the world almost a year ago and has proven herself totally irreplacable. She was the biggest influence in my life for almost a decade and I. adore. her. Our characters are quite similar, but our outlook and opinion on things quite often differs. F'rinstance, I love high heels and wear 'em all the time but she does not have high heels in her life! :razz: I think about that woman everyday without fail, even if generally we're too busy (and can't afford) to talk that often :heart:

    Wah, I am feeling sorry for myself now - but she's coming in July to see the bebes and I can hardly contain my excitement. I am going to give her the biggest cuddle of her life.

    Other than that I have a lot of good friends from school, the village I grew up in, Uni, various workplaces and randoms I met through a shared love of drink and drugs. Most of them have clung on throughout all our random travels and travails, which is cool. I did shed a few friendships when I stopped going out on the razzle every week, but I guess if and when I start going out again regularly I'll see them all. They're just random mates I guess, but there's a time and a place for them too.

    I have to say that the problem with having such a perfect best friend is that it reflects badly on other people and makes their friendship downfalls seem even worse. I was badly let down by two people I considered to be my best friends a couple of years ago; one stole money from people she met through me and the other slept with my boyfriend. Not cool.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Don't really have a 'best friend' I have friends who I am very close to though. I have quite a few more male friends than I do female friends.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I have good friends at college but I only see them at college.. My bestfriend is away at university and doesn't get that much time :rolleyes: and my other bestfriend lives down the road but he's a dude and sometimes I just want girl company.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I have three best mates, two girl mates i knew through clubbing, and one guy i knew from uni who i'm going to best man for this summer :D
    Those three are the only ones i feel really comfortable talking about most things too, and i know i can trust, had a lot of issues before with tbeing too trusting and naieve with people.
    Overall I'd say i get on better with girls, and the majority of my friends, espcially the closer ones are female.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I have about 3 best friends I can confide in. Two girls and my gay boyfriend.

    I also have an amaaaaaaaaaaaze pal I've nattered to on l'phone and MSN and that since I was about 19 or so. He's also re-hally hot. If he was up here he'd sure as hell be my bit of fluff. :razz:

    But aye, I have about 3 really close pals and over a dozen drinking/druggy buddies. I also know loads of folk, but I always go back to my close pals. :heart:
  • Indrid ColdIndrid Cold Warming up? Posts: 16,688
    What are the other 40% then? :confused:
    And how about the remaining 20%?

    Seems like neither of you are good at arithmetics. :p
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I have a few close friends, and one apparent best mate but in all honesty I've realised very recently that she isn't that good a friend at all.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    1 best friend and 5 or so close friends.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I dont really like to say best mates because i dont think anyone is better than anyone else but i have one very close friend 2 if you include my boyfriend but then i have a few other friends i can rely on to be there for me
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I dunno, I have different friends for different situations. At home, I've my boyfriend and his mates who are fantastic, and completely spoil me senseless! :) I also have another couple of mates who are brilliant and are always there for me when I need them. At uni, well...I dunno, I don't really have anyone who I'd consider a best mate or anything, as I only really see them in lectures. All are guys, apart from 2 girls (who are pretty tomboyish anyway, much like myself), because guys are who I feel most comfortable with.
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