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Best Friend
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Do you have a best friend or just lots of mates?
I have a lot of really good mates but i do have a best mate i can always always rely on i also have my sister and though she does my head in and we argue CONSTANTLY over everything from her dumbass boyfriend to whether i have stolen her shoes or not .. i still look out for her .
I've always been the sort of girl who has one best friend then lots of other friends, half are probably boys .. I just think getting along with boys is easier but then when one of you fancys each other things get REAL awkward then the friendship is ruined
I have a lot of really good mates but i do have a best mate i can always always rely on i also have my sister and though she does my head in and we argue CONSTANTLY over everything from her dumbass boyfriend to whether i have stolen her shoes or not .. i still look out for her .
I've always been the sort of girl who has one best friend then lots of other friends, half are probably boys .. I just think getting along with boys is easier but then when one of you fancys each other things get REAL awkward then the friendship is ruined
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I dont have "best" friend unless I can count my brother because he is the dogs.
The mix of boys to girls os about 6%/34%. I just get on better with guys then girls, but I do have a couple of really good female friends.
I indentified myself always more through my friends instead of family so they mean a lot to me and a fight with a friend can bring me massively down.
I have a lot of mates too, who I am just going out to drink or chat, or sometimes talk about personal things, but usually just superficial like stress with girl-/boyfriend or something. They are there to have fun and don't share a lot of serious time (except of course the occasional meet to study etc.)
Usually I get better on with boys. I had girls as friends too, but only very little were 100% trustworthy and they often lie when they don't want to meet up or something, instead of telling me the truth that they just do not want, and that's something I so so so dislike. Generally I think boys are better friendship material, there will always be quarrel and the such with gals, imho.
Apart from the Champions League, a boy doesn't need much more than that :thumb:
Then I'd have another 20 or so people I call friends who I text, call but not that close.
After that, there's just people I know and have the craic with when out but wouldn't ring them or text them to see the gossip.
Saying that, if they walked past me in the street I'd stop and talk. I love talking to people!
Apart from that we have a couple who we are very close to, they are our best mates in many senses of the words... we spend loads of time together, go away together etc but nothing as of yet has ever come up when we have needed help - I would like to think they would do everything they could to help us though.
We also have quite a tight nit group of friends with whom my husband grew up with... I know that if we were ever in trouble they would rally round to help us through it - that's a nice feeling
My boyfriend is also a best mate, we do all sorts of stupid stuff together, and love every moment, and tbh, now his friends have met my friends, we've built up a nice little group and I totally love it.
My other best mate is my bf. He is like the other half of me, we get on great and I can talk (and argue) anything to him. He's a great support as well.
Ha yeah we had this discussion the other day, if you were trapped down a well for 48 hours, who could you put up with having in there with you. All 3 of us obviously decided on each other, but then me and my other mate decided we were unsure on the other one, because after half an hour she'd get hungry and go all cannibal on us.
Wah, I am feeling sorry for myself now - but she's coming in July to see the bebes and I can hardly contain my excitement. I am going to give her the biggest cuddle of her life.
Other than that I have a lot of good friends from school, the village I grew up in, Uni, various workplaces and randoms I met through a shared love of drink and drugs. Most of them have clung on throughout all our random travels and travails, which is cool. I did shed a few friendships when I stopped going out on the razzle every week, but I guess if and when I start going out again regularly I'll see them all. They're just random mates I guess, but there's a time and a place for them too.
I have to say that the problem with having such a perfect best friend is that it reflects badly on other people and makes their friendship downfalls seem even worse. I was badly let down by two people I considered to be my best friends a couple of years ago; one stole money from people she met through me and the other slept with my boyfriend. Not cool.
Those three are the only ones i feel really comfortable talking about most things too, and i know i can trust, had a lot of issues before with tbeing too trusting and naieve with people.
Overall I'd say i get on better with girls, and the majority of my friends, espcially the closer ones are female.
I also have an amaaaaaaaaaaaze pal I've nattered to on l'phone and MSN and that since I was about 19 or so. He's also re-hally hot. If he was up here he'd sure as hell be my bit of fluff. :razz:
But aye, I have about 3 really close pals and over a dozen drinking/druggy buddies. I also know loads of folk, but I always go back to my close pals.
Seems like neither of you are good at arithmetics.