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Do I like torture??
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Seriously i have been in an on/off relationship now for almost 4 years!!! I know this person is no good for me, is constantly letting me down and is generally a selfish arse hole!! So why do i let him back into my life over and over again forgiving him!! The thing is when we are together and everything is fine i look at him and think "god i love you" and that is why i am going through this over and over! When do i stop?? Where are the limits? People say that you reach your limit, but what if you dont?? Is this my life???? Looking after this person?????
I cant talk to anyone because they have heard it a thousand times and even i am bored of it!! Where do you find the strength!! What do i have to do to get my life back!!!!
This is just a general rant but i am so confused, hurt, angry, bitter yet in love!! How does a human deal with these emotions at once!!!
If someone has the answer, please help!
kels xxxx
I cant talk to anyone because they have heard it a thousand times and even i am bored of it!! Where do you find the strength!! What do i have to do to get my life back!!!!
This is just a general rant but i am so confused, hurt, angry, bitter yet in love!! How does a human deal with these emotions at once!!!
If someone has the answer, please help!
kels xxxx
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What did you do xlittlexstarx? Did you leave or fight? xx
You already know what you are with him. Have a think about what you could be without him. Some people like the drama in their lives, others want a smoother relationship but you don't sound happy and you don't sound like being with him makes you feel loved and secure, more like not lonely and needed.
What you said makes a lot of sense, the thing is we have been apart - i think the longest was 2 months and i was fine and got on with things and i was probably slightly more sane! lol
I definately want a smoother relationship thats for sure. I guess when it comes down to it i love him and dont want it to end and that is why i cant let go.
Thanks again everyone for your advice.
Cherry xxx
YES I know EXACTLY what you're talking about!
I dealt with the same shit for two and a half years. It became a daily struggle to keep her from getting angry at me for stupid reasons. Where a normal relationship would consist of doing things to make her happy, I was going out of my way to keep her from getting pissed at me. I recall one time where I told her that it had been two weeks since she had been mad at me, and that I was overjoyed for that reason. Two days later, she broke the streak. I still loved her, though, for the beautiful moments we had together, although they were becoming less and less frequent. I couldn't imagine life without her.
I finally decided that enough was enough, and we wound up breaking up a month later.
Life is much better without her. I am SO much less stressed, and I'm meeting girls who are way nicer, more attractive, and just plain better. You may think that you can't live without someone, but don't knock it if you haven't tried it.