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19 and Feeling left behind
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I'm feeling further behind everybody else when it comes to growing up. I always thought I was maturer than other people, but recently discovered, I don't look my age or act it... Admittedly, most friends of mine are slightly older, but some are the same age...they all seem to be able to move onto the next stage, some are getting married, having babies, moving away to uni, got jobs, learnt to drive etc...and i'm still at home, going to uni in september but will still be living at home, don't have a job, can;t drive, definately not pregnant, not married or in relationship either now... I feel like I am just behind. anyone else feel this way?
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But its like a new lease of life and I'm no way ready for any of that stuff at the moment, just enjoy things and take them as they come!
But I've recently learned not to judge my life based on the lives of others, and do what feels right to me instead. Try to do the same. Everyone has their own pace.
Just a bit difficult sometimes.
lol... yeah i'd better not dwell on this anymore, I will develop a complex!
I've just got used to the idea that I'm a late starter. I know I'll get where I want to be, but it's just gonna take a little longer than most people.
All you can do is accept it and embrace it!
thing is you just have to do what you have to do.
If you can learn to drive do it, I was lucky and I learnt a few years ago and having a car is great. Understandably though not everyone can dedicate the time or finances to it though.
I feel the same way as you. Sometimes I feel so awkward because of it. Hmm.. I think a lot of people feel like this at some point. You're 19 so I wouldn't worry too much about the marriage/settling down thing. I'm going to uni in September too, the independence will probably be good all around
Are you happy with your life? If not, then tackle those issues, but don't compare yourself to others.
I don't understand people who are in a big hurry to "grow up". I left home at 17 and struggled with the concept of spending my hard earned money on stuff like washing up liquid and toilet paper.
By the way, you don't need to equate being in a relationship or getting pregnant with moving on...far better to be alone and work on yourself in my opinion. You're only 19, make the most of the years you have to concentrate on yourself and be selfish, pursue your interests, make an interesting career path for yourself.
If you're living at home and will get a student loan, you will more than likely be able to afford one or two driving lessons a week, so do it.
Seriously, you have your WHOLE LIFE to do grown up stuff, don't rush into it!