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I don't know how to help (self-harm)
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Hello again.
One of my friends (a different one) has been self-harming recently. She refuses to see her GP and refuses to seek any other form of help.
Is there anything I, or she, can do to help her?
I don't know how to advise her.
Thanks guys.
Picc.
xxx
edited to correct typos
One of my friends (a different one) has been self-harming recently. She refuses to see her GP and refuses to seek any other form of help.
Is there anything I, or she, can do to help her?
I don't know how to advise her.
Thanks guys.
Picc.
xxx
edited to correct typos
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Id say just be there for her to talk to you if she wants to.
I really agree with this as well because I have had people tell me that I'm crazy, insane, and what not, when I was self-harming a lot and really, really bad, throughout most of my teenage life, and the more they told me this, the more I did it and the worse it seemed to get.
I may have not cut in 10 1/2 months, but I am far from being cured. I still have the strong urges and probably always will have those strong urges of wanting to cut, but I know that I have the coping skills to help me through mostly all the urges.
All else that I can say is just be there for your friend and let your friend know that you will be there for him/her and that anytime that him/her needs anyone to talk to or whatever, just let them know that you will be there for him/her when and if she/he needs to talk.
edited, as ever, to correct my typos.
stay there for her as becky said. dont force her to do anything she doesnt want to do as she may resent you for that and push you further away. all i can say is make sure you are there for her and slowly she may start to admit that she has a problem. that has to come from her im afraid. if ya wanna talk about it from someone who has been there then feel free to PM.
hope it all works out
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As the others have all said, just having friends that care helps, so you just being there will be appreciated.