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Feelings i dont want!!!
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Hiya
Long time since i posted last!
But anyway to the point! Ive been with my fiance for almost 4years now and we are getting married next year, but i recently started back college! and there are lots more males in our class, and got chatting to one of them, he's different from the rest though in a wierd way thats why he stood out, but the other night i had a dream that it was this guy i was with and it was a pretty raunchy dream, i woke up the next morning and couldnt wait to get to college to see him, i dont know why, as i am happy in my relationship! Today for instance my friends and i were going down the street as we normally do, but 2day he offered me a ride down, i did and i dont know why but i really wanted to make a move! BUT i couldn't do it! i love my honey!
I think it might be the fact ive not been single for so long(3 and a half years) and im missing the feeling to have a crush on sum1!
What can i do?? i dont want this guy but i cant stop thinking about him!!
Love *candycane*
Long time since i posted last!
But anyway to the point! Ive been with my fiance for almost 4years now and we are getting married next year, but i recently started back college! and there are lots more males in our class, and got chatting to one of them, he's different from the rest though in a wierd way thats why he stood out, but the other night i had a dream that it was this guy i was with and it was a pretty raunchy dream, i woke up the next morning and couldnt wait to get to college to see him, i dont know why, as i am happy in my relationship! Today for instance my friends and i were going down the street as we normally do, but 2day he offered me a ride down, i did and i dont know why but i really wanted to make a move! BUT i couldn't do it! i love my honey!
I think it might be the fact ive not been single for so long(3 and a half years) and im missing the feeling to have a crush on sum1!
What can i do?? i dont want this guy but i cant stop thinking about him!!
Love *candycane*
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Mr_Wobble
a question that i don't like to rise is the relationship you are in really the one you should be in now?
i dont want to leave my boyf of 4years for soemthing that will only last...2 months, but the tempation is there when it shouldnt!
I dont know what it is he has that my fiane doesnt, and its gonna bug me till i know!
thanks for your help guyz xx
I wouldn't look too much into a dream. Girls do that way too much in my experience (I once knew a girl that thought we were destined to marry as she dreamt i fucked her in an alleyway? what?). The dream could just be a way of telling you that you like this person a great deal or that you wish your current lovelife needs spicing up (which doesn't mean bonking away, it means sorting it out with your partner).
Obviously you can question whether or not you really love your current partner - But it sounds like you do. Don't let the doom vultures make your mind up for you on that count.
Good luck.
I might have got this wrong, but if you say your unhappy isnt he supposed to try and get to the point of unhappiness?
Make sure the other bloke likes ya first. This may sound like im being a bitch, but i wouldnt be staying with anyone that chucks me in the spare room!
Hiya! well after me telling this guy i liked him, he said he liked me back, and we've been chatting for about 6 hours everyday via sms. so the other day we decided to get together and ended up in bed. afterwards i didnt feel the slightest bit of guilt, and i enjoyed it!
before you judge dont call me a slag or whatever coz i know what ive done is wrong but it felt so right!
Now im back to square one with feelings i do want now!
confusing stuff!
Love candycane xxx
if you arent happy in your current realtionship i'd say end it theres no point staying with someone if your not 100% sure its right, move on see how it works out with the new bloke.
sit down have a good old chinwag to the new bloke to see if he's looking for a relationship (if thats what you want with him), discuss what you both want out of it. then sit down and tell your fiancee it aint gonna be easy but you get do whats best for yourself and the others involved.
hope i could be some help, keep smiling
I have spoke to this other guy about a possible relationship, but he said that want what he was looking for, just meaningless sex, and that is what we aggreed on and were both happy with that, but afterwards, he kept hugging me and playing with my hair, and i knew from the look in his eyes he is wanting much more, but doesnt really eanto to get involved in such a situation. I would leave my fiance given the chance, but he loves me to much to let me go, which makes it even more difficult then i would have the finance of paying back the wedding costs so far. dont wnat to through my future happiness away for a fling with some other guy.
i really got myself in a complecated situation huh?
love candycane xx
Now I now I sound like I'm having a go, and I suppose I am a bit as I've been cheated on in the past, and I always get a bit angry when I read a post like this where it seems like cheating wasn't a big deal, and the person is trying to make out that it was someone elses fault. But, at least you posted it, and I may, if I'm lucky, learn something from reading this thread.
Mr_Wobble
Yeah, ok, everybody 'thinks' 'dreams' about other people, call them fantasises don't we, but they never become reality. You'd be lost without your bf. Hope your proud of yourself.
(Sorry this sounds bitchy but I've been hurt in the past...still hurting).
I mean - is it fair to tell my boyf just because I want to get it off my chest?! When it will only hurt him and I dont want to lose him anyway?
Help!!
:mad:
Hi again!
right on saturday morning i broke up with my fiance, but he was absolutely devestated, so i spoke to my friends about it and they said write up a list of good times and bad times, and work it out from there, and i discovered that at the end of the day my boyf would NEVER do anything to hurt me he loves me to bits, and i know i dont deserve him, so we got back together the sunday night! so i asked the other guy if i could phone him so we could talk, but the excuses he gave were pathetic, i asked if we could meet up and chat but he has stood me up 3times, and i just dont think hes worth it! so at the end of the day, ive realised NOTHING is more important to be than my fiance and i love hi to bits, and i will never ever hurt him again!
candycanexx
Did you tell your fiance about the other guy by the way?
Well you takled it in a sensable manner.. well done i hope your happy together... and good luck in the future