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omg my mam's such a bitch...
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im so so so so sorry if you find this thread pointless.
and i though i had problems my mam use to selfharm i though she would understand. she said she also wanted to help me just the other week..
but with comments like
"if you spent as much time on your homework as you do cutting your arms you might not be so much of the biggest fuck up ever."
or
"i tell you when you sleep, eat and use the toilet, if you ignore me i'll deck ya."
or
"you a waste of time in this family. if you cut again im phone social services."
now what kind of caring mother would say things like that. if she truely cared she would wanna help wouldnt she not putting me in tears????
sorry for pointless thread i just had let it of my chest.
and i though i had problems my mam use to selfharm i though she would understand. she said she also wanted to help me just the other week..
but with comments like
"if you spent as much time on your homework as you do cutting your arms you might not be so much of the biggest fuck up ever."
or
"i tell you when you sleep, eat and use the toilet, if you ignore me i'll deck ya."
or
"you a waste of time in this family. if you cut again im phone social services."
now what kind of caring mother would say things like that. if she truely cared she would wanna help wouldnt she not putting me in tears????
sorry for pointless thread i just had let it of my chest.
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i know i just dont understand why...
i though i was on a good roll but now. she keeps knocking me down....
trouble for what.....
she has my 2brothers, my sister, my sisters boyfriend, and my sister in law backing HER up....
maybe she is right. maybe i am a screw up.... deserve to die.
hope she is happy knowing she causes me to cut and want to die.
edited:loads of errors.
my mum's a normal, happy, well-adjusted person, and she nearly had a breakdown when she found out about me and my self destructive behaviour.
she says she understands bc she use to do it. yet she calls be a fuck up and stuff like that... she doesnt want me in her PERFECT FAMILY if i was gone she gets her PERFECT FAMILY..
yes, i'm the family fuck up too.
they learn to deal with it. just takes time. if she used to harm, she's obviously quite delicate, whatever type of front she puts on, and it might take her a bit longer than everyone else.
how does she treat your brothers and sister? How lng have yuo been self harming and how did she treat you before she knew about you self harming?
they are treated fine. my twin is the golden child loved and adored. i've allways been treat unfairly and recently it has got worse since i have been self harming. i have been selfharming for 2yrs now. but i only started to do it badly since/after the almost attack. thats when i started to use a knife. i swear my mam wants me dead. if she does then i will make her happy let her win.
you've only got once chance on this earth, don't fuck it up with your parents.
Try talking rationally to her about everything, try being civil and rational and calm, rather than having slanging matches the whole time. People say things in anger and desperation that they dont mean and wouldnt normally say.
But if the worst comes to the worst just try to remember that the problem is HERS and not yours. SHE is the one being unreasonable, being spiteful, not you- dont believe what she says as it simply isnt true.
I know what its like to be told Im a fuck up by people at school, and it did me pretty badly, but I cant imagine whats its like from a parent, really. But try not to believe the words- regardless of the motive, they are not right. Keep the faith, and keep the counselling.
ill tell you guys how it goes.. c ya..
maybe because she used to do it too she understands more than you do at the moment!!!!