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Hi 
This is kinda an embarrising question - I would have changed my username but couldn't really be bothered hehe. Anyway.
I'm in a relationship, and everythings going fine, but I don't know when or how things will go 'further' and I feel they won't unless I try to make them go further. I've spoken to my girlfriend very briefly about such things and she basically said she wasn't going to do anything sexual until she was at least 19. But I don't know - I was brought into a conversation with her and one of her friends ages ago - they were talking about whether they would lose their virginity before 16. And my girlfriend said she didn't know because she didn't know about me. Which... confused me. Sigh. The toher girl by the way said she wanted to
(just to embaress her yay!)
Tralala. Anyway. I respect her totally but I don't know what to do and I know it's unfair to classify all girls under the same roof but many of the girls I know are flexible and they kinda have a 'lets see how it goes' attitude. Thank god my girlfriend isn't going to read this thread
Thanku for the replies xx
p.s me and her and like first serious gf/bf so we have never 'gone further' with anyone else so....
This is kinda an embarrising question - I would have changed my username but couldn't really be bothered hehe. Anyway.
I'm in a relationship, and everythings going fine, but I don't know when or how things will go 'further' and I feel they won't unless I try to make them go further. I've spoken to my girlfriend very briefly about such things and she basically said she wasn't going to do anything sexual until she was at least 19. But I don't know - I was brought into a conversation with her and one of her friends ages ago - they were talking about whether they would lose their virginity before 16. And my girlfriend said she didn't know because she didn't know about me. Which... confused me. Sigh. The toher girl by the way said she wanted to
(just to embaress her yay!)Tralala. Anyway. I respect her totally but I don't know what to do and I know it's unfair to classify all girls under the same roof but many of the girls I know are flexible and they kinda have a 'lets see how it goes' attitude. Thank god my girlfriend isn't going to read this thread
Thanku for the replies xx
p.s me and her and like first serious gf/bf so we have never 'gone further' with anyone else so....
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dont push her to do ne thing sexual, but u can always try, (no i dont mean force her) just go for it when ure alone.
ne help to ya?
When I say try I don't mean to try and yank all her clothes off, but do it in a subtle way.
When you've been kissing and stuff for a while and she's getting horny, go to undo her pants slowly and see if she lets you or not.
If she does then hint at taking them off, or even just ask her.
As long as she's horny and you're subtle about it, you'll be fine
Like why will it be any different from the day before she's 19 and her birthday? god women are so confusing. :mad:
How old is she? If she's serious I hope you don't have to wait a long time.
It's not like I'm going to yank her clothes off - unless in a jokey respect which I do very often hehe. But we can be playful about it you know but when we turn serious then she goes all 'no'. Hmmm ah well, I'll just see how things go
I would wait until you have chance when your alone, both relaxed and chilled, and gently bring the subject into it. Ask her how she feels, so your not just guessing and going on hear say. Talk about it and find out what she wants or when she wants, she may not even know for sure herself. Tell her about you too and what you want. Get to know her reason for wanting to wait til shes a certain age etc There is nothing else you can do here im afraid luvvy, once you get into the swing of the conversation it will come more natural, promise. Until you get to the stage where you can both talk about anything you want! Go on, the embarassment will be gone within 1 minute of talking, its just that first bit and she might suprise you with what she has to say. She may be willing to try stuff and you never know where it could lead to
I mean I know she doesn't want to be easy - and she isn't. She's very sensible and I'm sure she would never regret anything she does (except going to the shop) just I hope she can be a bit more flexible when we talk about it, just so we can talk about it. It does seem weird in the middle of conversation and I have no idea how to start of the conversation...
aye I beleive she is
after what she said yesterday I've been completely put off having this talk with her :eek2:
We were joking about something or other then she said I was scitzophrenic. I asked her which of my personalities she liked and she went through them, but then she said she didn't like my bad side. I asked her what that was and she said "we'll save that for a later date"
ho-hum - I still have masterbation though
I'm just about giving up now because chances are she'll have dumped me by the time we're both 19....
Schizoprehia?? Thats hallcinations or delusions
Do you mean "Multiple Personality Disorder?"
sorry that was off the topic. . . my perfectionism is kickin in at a bad time.
hey shush. comment about the girl + the issue not tjhe perfectionism
I am wondering. Either she is naive and really doesn't want anything to do with this stuff, is playing very hard to get and is unnaive, or is mature and just isnt interested.... hmmmm
the thing is there is evidence for + against all theories. And dont tell me not to analyse cos analsyings what i do
yea i guess its not like ive put any pressure on her its just how she gives me mixed signals. im not gonna lay her off cos tbh that doesnt really matter that much to me it just gets annoying sometimes when im mad about her but a little kiss is as far as it will ever go you know? but
thanks for your replies
because im mad about her
i think she doesnt want to lead me on or anything so thats why she says 4 years cos its so long away lol. i bet if we were together till we were 19 she would use being 19 as a basis to go further with me. the only real hope i have hehe is to see if she changes her mind...
and im not the type of guy who will just sleep with anyone either
4 years was bullshit
Or maybe I forgot to post in this one but I've been reading through it and I definitely thought she wouldn't last. Now something's happened though, don't put any pressure on her to keep going further - don't take things too fast!
But yay for you