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First Dates - Who Pays and How Much
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On a first date who usually pays?
The Guy, Girl or do you go dutch? or Should the person that did the asking in the first place pay?
And what do you usually spend on a first date? Do you do something simple or go out to impress and spend lots of dosh?
The Guy, Girl or do you go dutch? or Should the person that did the asking in the first place pay?
And what do you usually spend on a first date? Do you do something simple or go out to impress and spend lots of dosh?
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Under no circumstances should the woman expect the guy to play. That would make her a slag, as Federico would say :yes:
If they ask me, i think they should pay. However, if its expensive then i like to pay my half. If a bloke asked me out and didnt pay for me, it wouldnt bother me to be honest. I just think its polite to pay seeing as they asked!
:no: maybe it makes her old fashioned and a traditional romantic?!
I guess "we" kinda cheated in that he asked me on the date, a little while later I asked (very subtle person that I am) "do I need to bring money, or are you treating me?"
<later on I also said how I'm the sort of girl who will also treat her guys ... kinda a 'taking it in turns' thing>
He said he'd treat me
We're going for dinner & a movie (I think)
As for how impressive it is - perhaps I'll let y'all know later
yup.
i would always try to pay half, and mr. junkie would always slyly pay the whole thing and give me my money back.
and on a first date you should do something simple but fun. no point shelling out if you don't even get on! the cinema is ideal, cause if they turn out to be dead boring you can always watch the film. and you'll have at least one thing to talk about.
Fair enough. Let the guy be old fashioned and expect the women to do all the housework
fair enough, theres a lot of people like that still around!
I'm more than happy for guys to have to pay for a date, and for women to have to do all the housework, whilst I relax with a beer that she got me from the fridge
:yes:
I agree with that. If I have asked a guy out I will insist that I pay and I like it if a guy does the same and says he will pay if he asked me out. If he doesn't then fair enough but all the guys I've been out on dates with have gone along with it in that way.
After the first couple of dates I like to start either taking it in turns or paying half each though.
I tend to go out for a drink on a first date, that way I can get to know the guy and it's also not going to turn out to be a mega expense.
It's true though.
If a girl expects a guy to pay, she's usually the type who buggers off after the first date, and you never hear from her again :mad:
I assume you're going for the Movie first and then the Dinner?
That way you have something to talk about if the conversation gets low .... If it was a really boring movie would you ever walk out?? I just saw the Hulk and was really - I'd have walked out but I was watching it on my PC! He He!!! - Instead I fell asleep twice now trying to watch it!!
As far as paying I think it's nice if the guy pays and if she insists on paying half before the date begins I'd say - "Let me pay this time and if you have a nice time and wanna do it again then you can take me somewhere next time"
Nowadays, we're all equal. However, I wouldn't say anything if the bill came and she didn't even offer to pay, there just wouldn't be a second date. If she did offer I would say no the first time out of politeness and then the second time she insisted I'd agree to split it straight down the middle. Although I'd hope that most women would agree to split the bill nowadays.
I don't believe in paying for someone's company which is essentially what you're doing if you're paying the whole bill. Little things like a drink before the meal or some sweets for the film or a taxi home I'd pay for but not the main event.
As for taking them somewhere flash, I wouldn't unless it was a special occasion because it could lead to her thinking I was richer than I was and expecting more than I could afford, plus it could make one or both of you feel more uncomfortable.
But i think maybe you should buy the drinks and taxi but not the food and movie.
Lads seem to try to insist on paying all of it, but I insist on paying at least half and always get my way.
Depending on the person, I always offer to pay all of it.
Some dating experts advise against going to the movies for a first date - they say it give little opportunity to talk. Anyway I think it's best to avoid some of the 3 hour movies that are out there.
Well ... I said that I'd post up how last night went so I guess I should (particularly since Skateside has just prompted me on MSN messenger to do so!)
Anyway last night went well ... I know it was mentioned as to whether we would go for the movie then dinner or the other way round - we went dinner then movie. Ate in a great pub on the embankment (I live near a river) then went to see "The 4 Feathers"
The evening was really good ... i really enjoyed myself, yes he paid for the meal but I have one of those pass cards for the cinema so he didn't pay for me there, just himself.
The movie was good ... if you liked "Sharpe" on TV you'll enjoy it ... also there's some good opportunities for snuggling ... but since I'm such an :angel: I wouldn't like to say anymore
We've decided to give each other the labels of bf & gf (did debate using the term 'luvbitch' pour moi - but decided that gf was more socially acceptable!!!)
luv y'all
Ms. F.G. xx
Are you serious?
I was 17 then. 24 now. Yes, my only. Because of hearing/visual difficulties, I find it hard getting romance, let alone friends.
I also agree with lil minx that if you ask someone to go on a date with you, you should really pay for them - because they're doing you the favour of going out with you! So if I asked someone out on a date, I'd pay - but if he asked me out, it would be nicer for him to pay.
Having said that, 99% of the time we just go dutch!
Its soooooo easy for girls to say that (the above) cos we all know that girls hardly ever fuckin ask blokes out, so they can hide behind this excuse!:rolleyes:
But I'm sure the girls that think this actually do ask out lots of boys and pay for them RIGHT?:rolleyes:
Girls are pretty fickle, they want independence & sexual equality BUT still want to be treated like a princess and have things brought for them.
I don't mind doing the gentleman routine as long as it gets noted! Nothing worse than a girl that thinks I should pay for everything just cos I am a bloke. I got money yes, but I worked for it.
(I've spent a lot on girls! You wouldn't believe it if I told you.) I'd sooner be thought of as a tight **** now, than a mug!!:p