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shy!?!
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rite this comes to a shock to me, but i think im shy to get my dick out wiv a girl (not as if id get it out wiv a lad but u get me !!!)....
basically im a virgin and shud b losing my virginity on saturday and im worried !!!
ne help guys? is this natural?
basically im a virgin and shud b losing my virginity on saturday and im worried !!!
ne help guys? is this natural?
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If you're too worried and/or scared then you're probably not really ready to be having sex yet.
Mate, you need to give more than an hour for a reply.
So many people are nervous, and not only the first time they have sex, but with new partners years after losing their virginity (i.e me) its natural to be nervous, youre partner is going to see every inch of your body, and youre going to worry about what she thinks of you, and the sex.
Its natural, once youve begun you'll wonder why you were so nervous in the first place. Just take a deap breath and realise your gf is likely to be feeling exactly the same, if not more so
great advice, thanx
oh yea and thanx to the rest of u guys, but i av to agree wiv minx, wudnt u be nervous for ure first time?
Listen mate i think its perfectly fine, to be honest i don't think there is one male that could say he has never had any sexual worries at some stage (male sex gods are excluded). Its all to do with expectations and the major male worry is usually especially on the first time 'will she think i am shit?' 'closely followed by will she think my dicks small? ugly?' I was in a long relationship with a girl and it took me a long time to open up and as soon as i meet someone new i will probably have that difficulty again. I know this is gonna seem a bit shallow but have a few bevvies before you get jiggy as this will help to calm your nerves and inhibitions, it really does help and once you've eased into it wiv a partner once you'll find it a lot easier when your sober! Before i end a quick question to the girls:
what fears or worries do you have about sex specifically, if any?
Peaceout
:no: what if he drunk too much out of nerves (seen it happen) then hed have a little bit of trouble getting it up, and theres nothing worse than beer breath!
If only...
...Actually no. i was totally ready. i mean sure there will always be some nerves there but thats just natural. what are you like as a person in general? are you normally shy or are you an extrovert?
im somewhere in between, meaning im sometimes shy with people i dont know but with friends and family im quite outgoing.
Dont put too much pressure on yourself mate! just relax and enjoy it! if it happens, it happens.
thats what hes saying. there are always going to be nerves.
(edited because I can't type...)
Know the feeling!
8 inch's good enuf?
thats the nerves im talking about i think
very extrovert actually
good advice, think i mite do that :rolleyes:
Who wouldn't be nervous? Don't worry about it. I'll bet you'll be excited to see her naked, and she will be excited to see you naked, so don't worry about it.
Mr_Wobble
....well?
Get some candles out (making love in candlelight is great). Also if you got a lot of them (i mean like a 100 tealights) the room gets hot, so it's perfect excuse to take the clothes off!
Take your mind off sex to relax.... Watch a romantic movie or something and then afterwards start kissing her, clothes will naturally come off (but always respect her feelings, don't just rip off her top and stick your hand down her pants, ask her how she feels and if she's ok with everything you do. She might be on her period and wouldn't appreciate you trying to stick your fingers up her, so pay attention to her feelings too)
Have a drink to relax (but don't have too many, otherwise, once again, you might not perform). Find out if she likes wine and have a couple of glasses each (i wouldn't have more than a couple!)
And the obvious things like locking the doors and turning the phones off helps too. Nothing worse than you just about to "enter her" and the phone goes off, you get distracted and "loose it".
Apart from that just relax, have fun and be safe.
This has happened to me twice! Her phone goes off when we were just about to.And her mum saying she will be home in bout 10 mins and the other time was that her sis finished work early and vick had to meet her like an hour earlier!So there was no point!:(
And i dont see the point in 'arranging it'.Cos im the kinda person that if its done like that ill bottle out.
Hmmmmmmmmmm .... and you're nervous? Maybe u need to measure it again ...