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my annoying lack of confidence
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I just dunno what to do about this. It really annoys me sometimes. I'm quite a shy bloke, especially when it comes to girls. I mean I've never had a proper girlfriend and I'm 17 and I havent pulled in about 19 months I dunno what it is its just I'm shit at approaching girls. A slight factor in it in my opinion, even though it is just me feeeling sorry for myself, is the fact I go to a single sex school, so havent spent most of my adolescence around girls all the time and the fact I have a slight disability which makes my left hand side weak, due to the fact I was born 13 weeks early, only weighing 2lbs. I tend to be quiet and sometimes people do take the piss but I tend to ignore it, I mean what else can you do? I just wish I could figure a way to just sort it out and get a girlfriend.
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I don't have confidence either and I don't think I am ready for a serious relationship because of this. I think I should concentrate on getting to feel good about myself first. You have the rest of your life to have girlfriends and I think you are better to be on your own than with someone who just isn't right for you because you have a fear of being single.
Anyone who takes the piss out of you is just nasty and pathetic and not worth wasting another thought on.
As to your disability, do you think its the disability itself that is the problem or how you feel about it?
as for people taking the piss, some of them i know they are only messing about and I take the piss back sometimes or i feel like a pushover. that is just the way it is in a school like mine and i wish it wasnt but it is. the only annoying thing about that is with other people, their shortfalls arent quite so obvious.
tell them all to fuck off. why would you want a girl who got a problem with your situation anyway.
you ain't missing out on shit
grrrrrr
*goes off on one hating dem dinos...*
being in a relationship doesn't change the way you look at everything in life... bf/gfs are nice, but they can be difficult too.
it's like that cliche thing 'u have to learn to love yourself, before you can love someone else' - it's really true. Focus on the things that you really really like about yourself... like this being born premature - you have to be pretty special to have come through that.
*hugs*
Soph .x.
i think that you just havent met the right person yet, because when you do, she will want you for who you are and see past your disability.
try to cheer up, love yourself and then others will love you to