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Ok due to this summer me and my bf of 4 months are thinking about whether to break up or not. We both will have very different lives seperate from one another by 2 hours drive. Then theres jobs and holidays and his gigs which may well prevent us from seeing each other. He says the only way we can see each other is if he wins the lottery and we buy a house and move in together. Please help I feel ill just thinking about it. I know both of us think a great deal of each other and claim to be in love.
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Why don't you go to the gigs together, and on holiday together? If you have money to do these things, surely you can afford the train fare?!
If you chat frequently by whatever means, such as telephone, email, internet, text, and meet as often as possible, I don't see any reason why it should not work.
You will both be back at uni in Sept or Oct, which is not far away.
You both must ask yourselves whether you are really willing and happy to put 100% effort into the relationship and whether you are 100% sure that you want it to work. Your answers to these questions will guide you about what to do.
If you're worried you'd be unhappy all the time and would rather not face the difficulties, ie would rather forget about him, have fun doing what you want and be able to meet other guys without feeling guilty, then maybe you should just break up.
To be honest though, if you mean that much to one another, it shouldn't be too hard.
What kind of man would use an excuse as fantastical as 'only if I win the lottery' to be with the girl he loves? Sounds to me like he wants to be free to do what he wants this summer.
if u want my advice, i think u shud break up, see how it goes. ull soon c that there are plenty more fish in the sea, and so will he.
Ok, all this is assuming you're both going back to uni next year, but even if he's graduating, it can still work. My boyfriend left uni 2 years ago and we're still together, despite having to go through long periods of not seeing each other. It can be done
there r many views on ur situation, Meryn has a good point, i would agree with her point!
A minute ago you were wholeheartedly advocating them breaking up! I think a lot of it's a matter of perspective and maturity - if you were about 14 and in a similar situation, then yeah you probably would break up, as the relationship probably wouldn't be terribly serious anyway and hey you'd want to pull on holiday :rolleyes: and move on the the next one, but things are slightly more complicated when you're older and more involved.
Shit that sounds patronising....:o