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I'm Too Fuckable
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All of the text messages on my fone are from guys talking about how seductive I am, and that they want to bed me.
I know, for some people, this is a great thing.. But I don't want guys to want me just for a shag.
I want them to like me for who I am, not what I look like.
I want a relationship, not a quick fuck here and there.
Why is this happening to me?
Ilora x
p.s. I'm extremely virginal too!
I know, for some people, this is a great thing.. But I don't want guys to want me just for a shag.
I want them to like me for who I am, not what I look like.
I want a relationship, not a quick fuck here and there.
Why is this happening to me?
Ilora x
p.s. I'm extremely virginal too!
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just try to show these guys the other side of you...
Or maybe you're meeting the wrong sort of guys.
If I had a quid for every time I've walked through town centre and had a barrage of girls screaming and clinging onto my ankles, begging me, I'd be Bill Gates. Times ten.
Hey newbie, your attitude isn't that attractive either. I don't think she sounds big headed at all. It's not nice when guys only want you for one thing.
thats why there good, when your not ready for a relationship but need a shag;) I dont see them as an alternative to a relationship just inbetween
I was once like you hun but I got hurt and it kicked my backside into touch and now im a meany and I pull all the strings. You will learn my dear.
ps oh yes I know its your opinion, just giving mine too hun:D both are different but equally important.
I was so virginial too, but I got corrupted by alcohol, and sex, and being the wanton subject of men's affections who are so easily attainable, and it's smashing. I wouldn't change nowt, my love.
Just a story which turned out good from these events. I think you should try one..:p
If you see a nice guy inthe corner try approaching him - a little encouragment works wonders!!
While I am kind of happy with something casual, blokes all seem to want to get serious with me. I don't know why the tables have turned, maybe because now I am more sure of myself and have the confidence to talk to a guy.
I think if you are more awkward or maybe come across as a bit "empty", guys may see you as just there for sex. I don't mean that you ARE empty, but if you only show one side of yourself, that's what a guy will see.
If you show what a lovely person you are, capable of having a conversation outside the bedroom, fun, not clingy or always going off with different guys, a lot of guys will see you as girlfriend material. Also if you dress a bit classy guys seem to see you as more of a girlfriend "type".
I may be wrong, but I've changed a lot over the past few years, I used to go out dressed in little skirts and lots of make up, giggle hystericaly with my friends, say stupid things to guys which I thought were funny, and I was constantly upset because someone had "used" me. You are only used if you allow yourself to be.
I think all that most blokes want is a friend, who they have sex with.
I think lads who do want to be in a relationship have deeper feelings for you than those who just want a quick fuck. Don't worry, you'll find someone eventually.
LOL! that sounds familiar... :rolleyes:
My honey and I used to send steamy msg to each other via the fone. It kinda kept us going, making our presence felt despite the fact that we are far apart from each other.
And frankly, I appreciate every single one of them (the messages I meant).
Cheers!
get over it, i love it when poeple pull rank on a message board.
it's a fair comment though, bragging about how irresistible you are to men, if a lad was to do it i would almost guarantee you would all be up in arms saying how sexist he was.:o
It's happened. He hasn't e mailed me, phoned me or texted me for 4 days. I give up on men totally.:(
aw hun *hugs* have you got in touch with him and hes not replying? who was the last person to get in touch?
The aim of my original post was NOT and I repeat NOT, meant to be a bragging session.
I have a problem: The fact that no guys seem to want a relationship with me. That is what's worrying me not how many guys I could have, but the fact that that's all they want me for.
I shall say again: I was not bragging before and I am not bragging now. I merely wanted a possible answer.
So please people, understand that I don't love myself, infact I dislike myself more than most understand.
I was not being big headed or bragging about this, I just wanted an answer, but perhaps none of you can give me the answer to this.
So please, stop thinking that I need to "get over myself"... I just needed some help.
Regards, Ilora x
In my opinion, most lads just want to have sex. And if one guy sleeps with someone, he'll tell his mates and they'll try it on, and tell their mates if they are successful and so on.
In my experiences that is how it works anyway (ex-girlfriend got off with all these guys behind my back for about 6 months of the year we dated, long story).
In all honesty, there isn't much you are able to do to stop this "Fuck now, name later" thing. However, you can try and in theory, it is possible.
Again, from my experience of being the opposite of boyfriend material:
Talk alot:Let people know you. Talk about anything, and show you are interested in their emotions. It really puts them off.
Be reserved:Yes, talking alot is fine, but if you have a confidence porblem, MSN etc is the way to do it. They'll pick up on this lack of confidence and think of you as a friend. However when you meet in person, chill out and have a laugh. I find that casual flirting in real life which is considerably less than over an Instant Messaging Service ruins their hopes.
Don't show off:You may have money, and personality and so on, but don't flaunt it. You'll be seen as a boring stinge. You won't be invited out alot...lowering your chances of being spotted by hormone ridden males!
Dress down:You may have a great body, so hide it! Yes, there's nothing sexier than a guy or girl who wears trousers and sleeved tops which don't cling to the body for dear life. Who knows whats under it all....
Don't ask for many numbers:The opposite think may assume you have no phone. This means they can't text you naughty messages or ask for sex. Oh darn.
Tighten up:Go on a date, don't jump down their throat straight away. Keep it to hand holding and conversation to get to know each other.
Be romantic:Show any signs of caring such as gifts, flowers and so forth and they'll run a mile.
Here you have it, my advise to become less attractive and more of one of the people who don't stand out. I'd be interested to see if you attempt any of this, and if so, if it actually works.