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Should I tell them?
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Me and my boyfriend got engaged a couple of months ago but I'm worried about telling my parents. I've no idea how they will react but usually they don't react well to stuff like this.
We have been together for almost 2 years now, i am 18 and he is 21. If they do react badly it'll be for one of them reason - either because I'm too young or because we haven't been together long enough.
I want to tell them just to get it over with, also so we can arrange to have an engagement party and stuff.
What would you do? Tell them and just see what happens or wait a bit and try figure out how they would react, maybe ask them questions relating to it.
Do you think were too young or that we haven't been together long enough?
I'm just trying to get a few opinions before i decide what i should do.
We have been together for almost 2 years now, i am 18 and he is 21. If they do react badly it'll be for one of them reason - either because I'm too young or because we haven't been together long enough.
I want to tell them just to get it over with, also so we can arrange to have an engagement party and stuff.
What would you do? Tell them and just see what happens or wait a bit and try figure out how they would react, maybe ask them questions relating to it.
Do you think were too young or that we haven't been together long enough?
I'm just trying to get a few opinions before i decide what i should do.
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they wont want to see theyre kid get married and not be be part of it hopefully
Trust me, it'll save a lot of hassle.
I agree. They might approve or they might disapprove, but until you tell them you will not know. So I suggest doing it asap and if they don't like it, tough; you are an adult so you do not need their blessing.
Good luck, keep us posted on how it goes
well...true :yes:
i'm gonna get hell for this.
but, if i had a pound for every failed engagement i knew about where the people have been under 25, i'd be a very rich lady.
YES sometimes people get engaged and married young, and it works. my mother never fails to remind me that she was engaged at 19 and married at 21. she's been with my dad 30 years now.
sometimes it works. but most of the time it doesn't.
my advice would be to wait, at least a couple of years. if you want to spend the rest of your lives together it shouldn't be a problem.
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to be fair tho... hardly any marriages seem to last anymore
'Cos half the people nowadays (younger generation) seem to think, "Ah well, I'll marry him and if it doesnt work out, we'll just get a divorce" :rolleyes: :mad:
Only you can decide that really. If your old enough and feel ready then go for it. I dont think we can judge whether your ready or not. Good luck anyway
Who knows they might be happy for you, once all the steam has blown over!!!
Good Luck ,and keep us posted on what happens!!!;)
Are you in a rush to get married? or is your engagement a statement of commitment and future hopes/plans? I'm not suggesting you should be 'engaged' for years - that’s just daft. 2 years is a long time to be in a relationship, if your parents haven't figured out that you are serious - now’s the time to tell them!
Good luck - I'm sure it will work out for the best and as rockerchick said - stick to your guns.
:yes: good point!