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age gap..in his mind
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Hiya all. well theres this lad im after, he iz 4yrs older than me, he says he really likes me and stuff but wont go out with me because of the age gap im trying to change his mind, all his mates say he should get with me aswel which is kool. we are at the point where he said he'l get off with me which is rly kool, but do any of u know how i can get him to get with me? Thanx loadz.
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I wouldn't agree, judging by this:
Ok, so you are allowed a life after you have had a baby, but I would think getting off with some bloke would be the last thing on your mind right now, so soon after having a baby!
Perhaps you should wait a little while, and perhaps find someone more stable in the future when you're grown up.
Anyway, I think you are too young for someone who is four years older than you. Also, why do you wanna be with someone who doesn't want to be with you but is happy to "use you" for a quick snog?
Yeah it must be pretty annoying but you have to realise that with him being over 16 & you being under it is illegal!! I know that with kissing it's not *claps* but he may think that he might lead further
I do agree with Bee though because by the statement you made it doesn't sound that you are mature!!
:yes: Once your over 18 it's not too bad, but if my 18 yr old brother came home and told me he had a 14 yr old girlfriend I would be very worried!!
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i'm 17 and she's 15 and after 6 months of her bein after me,
2 weeks in she is confused and has to sort out her head
oh but then she sends me a txt sayin 'ignore me i'm feeling emotional'
yeah like i can ignore summit like that! it is her time o month thu
BUT STILL! good god :crying:
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in conclusion, age gaps are bad in teen years. FACT!
When I first starting seeing my bfriend he was 17 & I was 15. But now im 16 & he is 18 so it's ok! I have to admit, when he found out i was 15 he had to think because with him being in the army it's taken quite seriously etc :rolleyes:
I've been seeing a guy who is 31 (i'm 22), and I was the fucking more mature one in that relationship!
:rolleyes:
One of my really close friends is only just 16 & her prick of a guy is 38 :yuck: He treats her like shite! She wants her head reading for being with him . . . . but no matter how much we tell her, she doesn't listern! Oh well, I guess I'll just be there again & again for her when he breaks her heart :no:
However her being 18 is much better than me being 18 and her being 14, its just sounds a bit ......mmmm dodgy.
"One of my really close friends is only just 16 & her prick of a guy is 38"
WHAT!!?!??! How dodgy is that!?!?
Do her parents have nothing to say on the matter????
Jesus... What kind of perv is he???
:mad:
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thats really rude! his neighbours will have to be informed of that when he moves in and stuff. he wont beable to get any jobs that involve children. that mum is rooood! although i can see where shes coming from, a 20yr old boneing her under age daughter is a bit.....:crazyeyes
he/she isnt that old as it is... only a few months if i remember... and that should be your main focus for a hell of a long time, but especially now when that child is at its most vulnerable... and at a time in its life when you should be developing a relationship with it, not with random men. (and im sure he's not random... but you see my point).
sorry to break it down for you but:
YOU'RE A MOTHER
you're child is and should be your world. Not whether to 'get off' with this guy or not
Minging aint it?!! Urrrr :eek: He's really creepy as well, like hits on my other friends but when we tell her she goes "Noooo he's just being friendly" *Glad my bfriend aint that friendly* Her parents think that he is 24 . . . I wouldn't mind if he looked it, but he soooooo doesn't look 24 :no:
what?! 15 and 17 isnt an age gap... ok, so one of you's older than 16 and the other younger... but seriously - its hardly a MASSIVE age gape, not anything to be concerened about! I was 15 when i met my fella, and he was 18, but it just sounds worse than it is, and it doesnt even sound that bad. cuz just think, when im 24 he'll be 27, thats it... that doesnt sound bad at all! and anyway... girls mature two years quicker than lads, so technically you're both at the same mental stage
look you whoever you are.
how about yr ten and yr thirteen
and the fact i get stick for it
and the fact she's not allowed to go out drinkin and has to sneak out to go clubbin and shit?
and the fact i've done things she hasn't and i get paranoid she's still at the age of running around 'gettin with loads of guys' cus thats what most girls that age do.
EVERY FUCKIN TIME SHE GOES OUT I TURN INTO A PARANOID MESS SHE WILL CHEAT ON ME CUS OF THIS AGE GAP. HOWEVER SAFE IN THE KNOWLEDGE I AM SHE WON'T!!!!
THE AGE GAP ADDS PROBLEMS!
WTF? :eek2: Chill out, Christ, not everyone is as paranoid as you.
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what i should have said instead of waffling on trying to be nice...
for fuck's sake molo.
if you have a problem... then leave her.
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