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Singledom or coupledom
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Are you happier in a relationship...There seem to be many people on the site who invest their whole selves in their relationships and live for nothing else.
On a thread about Happiness loads of people wrote about the last time they were happy being something to do with their partner and their sadness was also usually to do with some terrible thing happening with their partner.
Isn't this a bit sad?
On a thread about Happiness loads of people wrote about the last time they were happy being something to do with their partner and their sadness was also usually to do with some terrible thing happening with their partner.
Isn't this a bit sad?
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I got so messed up in the head by the (2) relationships I've had so far!
Free to Flirt to ur Hearts Content! what more could a girl want?!
Blessed Be x
Tis sad but true.
I've never thought one is better than the other, they both have plus points. At the moment I prefer being single, because at this moment in time, I don't really think I can juggle all my work (A levels) with devoting some time to a partner too (esp if they are anything like my ex). Once I'm settled in uni with more time on my hands, and a better ability to balance work rest and play and all that, then I'll be happy to get into a relationship. That's not to say I won't go out with someone if they were really nice and asked me at the moment, but right now I'm just happy being single
overall though I guess I prefer being in a relationship because there are some feelings I only get when I'm in a relationship...
Yup, I feel exactly the same way. I don't really have the time to get into something serious with someone & am very happy being single at the moment.
I hope people don't think I am one of those people because I mention my boyfriend a lot!
Personally, I have been in a relationship all of my adult life and the latter part of my adolescent life, so I don't know how I would cope being single right now. Because I am in such a long term relationship I think I would fall apart!
However, in my relationship now we spend a lot of time together as a couple, but also a lot of time together as friends. The group of friends we have incompasses us both, but we do manage to spend time apart - like I will go out with "the girls" whilst "the lads" have a night in. My boyf also goes on tour with his band so I don't see him for a while.
I do think there is a stage where couples become too dependent and they are only spoken off in terms of one another like "David and Sue" and never as seperate individuals. I have two friends who are like that.
I don't think it is sad if your relationship is your life - whatever makes people happy! I am not going to judge someone else because of what makes them happy or sad, however I do think it can be a bit unhealthy and I personally would find it stifling.
The Silly String
NOt just for the sake of it but with one person in general.
We have an instinct to want what we cant have- so its tandum really swinging from one to the other!
Overall I think a relationship wins long term- but were mainly all fairly young amd wont apply to us all for a while!
Yerns for more single women
I have to say, i enjoy flirting, who doesnt? but at the same time i look at the guys who genuinely like me and think... why not? isnt it about time?! But then in the next instance, its not what i want!
Dear God i'm up n down like a friggin' yoyo!!
-Lady T
I have now learnt to be independant on my own and in a partnership! I ma happy
Aww hunneh! I'm sure some1 out there does fancy ya, you just dont know it!!
-Lady T
Personally I believe you do not need a relationship to be happy or to feel fulfilled. Accepting and respecting yourself are the first steps towards happiness and fulfillment.
Although I feel needy of attention during a relationship, I also crave my own personal space and time. I often feel that being single allows me to develop myself more. Maybe that's because I've met the wrong men so far.
Personally, I've just started my first real relationship after being single for the "best" part of my life and reflecting on this I can say that neither being single, nor being in a relationship is the best scenario: there are times when I want to do my own thing and others when I want someone there for me.
Fortunately, both of us are independent (her because she has been hurt in the past and me because I don't know any better :-) ) and have our own life plans and aspirations (both at uni).
I know there are a lot of relationships where it is all or nothing but that's too extreme for me - it's all about comprimising.
It also means I can concentrate more on my damn A-levels.
I do like going out with people but I think if its the wrong person, its when I get nasty. There was only 1 guy I was a good girlfriend to and I did love him at the time.
:crying:
AW hun!! I like short men (Which is handy as I live in Wales!) Don't think you are unattractive just because you are short!!
Being single is great. Having a boyfriend is great. They're both cool, and I'm happy in either situation.
But as the saying goes (for some people)... you always want what you haven't got!
but i do love time to myself or with mates too, i guess the key to it is finding a balance or your preference and going with it.